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I am so sorry that you are going through this. It must be so hard as it is to take care of 3 kids and now this. Yes, kids make mistakes but it is a not a reflection on you. I am sure you did everything you can to raise them responsibly. But what can one do if they still end up making life altering mistakes?
It is NOT your fault that this has happened. Don’t let anyone (including yourself) convince you otherwise.
Now, have you explored all your options? Does your daughter wants to keep the baby or is she willing to give the baby for adoption? There are a lot of childless couples who are emotionally and financially more capable than your daughter and who will be ecstatic to have an adopted baby. If you decide to go that way, then perhaps the expenses of pregnancy will be taken care of.
As far as I know, there is no legal way to throw a minor out. Even if there is, this is going to sit on your conscious for the rest of your life. Before you explore options about letting her go, go through all the possible ways where she can actually stay but still would not cost you your home.
I am dismayed to see the number of responses shaming the OP. For all you know, she did everything she can to provide a loving, stable home. You all must have very perfect lives with perfect children to automatically blame OP for her daughters mistakes.
I am dismayed to see the number of responses shaming the OP. For all you know, she did everything she can to provide a loving, stable home. You all must have very perfect lives with perfect children to automatically blame OP for her daughters mistakes.
Where there is smoke, there's frequently fire. I don' think the OP was being blamed for her daughter's predicament, as much as being told the reality that parenting responsibilities don't end just because our kids screw up.
Where there is smoke, there's frequently fire. I don' think the OP was being blamed for her daughter's predicament, as much as being told the reality that parenting responsibilities don't end just because our kids screw up.
I doubt the OP will return though.
No Mattie. There number of responses which directy said that she came home pregnant because OP was a bad parent. I can go back and get the post numbers, should you wish to see.
Its heartbreaking for a parent to witness a 15 year old pregnant as it is. She probably is already blaming herself sick for this situation. With all these posts, you dont want to push her to the limits. You never know how fragile a mind is.
I am dismayed to see the number of responses shaming the OP. For all you know, she did everything she can to provide a loving, stable home. You all must have very perfect lives with perfect children to automatically blame OP for her daughters mistakes.
She wants to throw a child into the streets!!! No pbe is blaming the OP fir anythibg butbthe OPs own behavior.
I get stress.....I do nott get tossing out a child. If there are issues....you get them help. You don't say 'tough **** you'really on your own now'.
No Mattie. There number of responses which directy said that she came home pregnant because OP was a bad parent.
Yet how many news articles have people posted on forums about kids and the crazy, sometimes violent things they do? What's usually the first question people ask?
Yeah ... they ask, "Where are the parents?"
If we're ready to hold parents responsible for their kids when the parents aren't present, why should we do any less when the parents ARE present?
No Mattie. There number of responses which directy said that she came home pregnant because OP was a bad parent. I can go back and get the post numbers, should you wish to see.
Its heartbreaking for a parent to witness a 15 year old pregnant as it is. She probably is already blaming herself sick for this situation. With all these posts, you dont want to push her to the limits. You never know how fragile a mind is.
You don't know that the mom isn't to blame any more than the other posters know that she is. What makes you think she's blaming herself when she's said the exact opposite?
No Mattie. There number of responses which directy said that she came home pregnant because OP was a bad parent. I can go back and get the post numbers, should you wish to see.
Its heartbreaking for a parent to witness a 15 year old pregnant as it is. She probably is already blaming herself sick for this situation. With all these posts, you dont want to push her to the limits. You never know how fragile a mind is.
I can't believe you are supporting someone that thinks tossing out a child is appropriate because the patent isn't yo blame for the kids mistakes.
Put the baby up for adoption. That baby doesn't need either one of you trying to take care of it; she deserves way more.
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