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A complete stranger's kids, hands off unless you are pushing them out of the way of a car.
I was on a long bus trip once, before I was a Dad, with a Mom and 3 young girls; and I then had the occasion of entertaining the littlest one playing around in the way you describe. But the mom and I had gotten to know each other a bit by then.
I totally agree to not touching other people's kids. I do think from the tone you have though PeachSalsa that you probably are one of those people who if someone even glances in your general direction they are a rapist or pervert. I might be wrong but I just get that vibe.
To the bolded...not at all. You are wrong. I consider myself quite strong and independent, though. I've married and buried my husband, raised my kids, and maintain my own suburban home, all the while holding down a full time as well as a part time job. I volunteer, am involved in my neighborhood, and have a wonderful relationship with my grown children.
I also empowered my kids to stand up for themselves at a young age, though. Nothing wrong with that!
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Originally Posted by Loveswater_outdoors
For white males especially, there is no reason to touch a stranger's kid unless it is to help them in a serious situation. In this society today, I tell my friends I won't even watch their kids because I don't want to be accused of something I didn't do and go to jail. I avoid kids like the plague. I was actually told by some females I know when I was 25 and single that being out of college and not in a relationship meant that I most likely was gay or a pedophile or both. I am now engaged, but it is sad that if you are a single white male and over 23 or so, that suddenly you are some kind of monster.
Let me fix this sentence for you: "For any person, there is no reason to touch a stranger's kid unless it is to help them in a serious situation."
I thinks it's mostly a personal space than a "predator around every corner" thing. But it's kind of interesting (for lack of a better word) that one of the posters who feel parents are overreacting has chosen a username that includes the word "convict" and another is a 32 y.o. man who calls himself "sexxi boi".
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Originally Posted by ChrisFromChicago
Okay, I have no real fear of predators.
My unease doesn't come from a worry that you may pat my 5 year old in the wrong place. That is a separate issue.
I would think its weird
to pat a preganant woman, you don't know, belly
to pat the ass of a random woman or man
to play with a girls hair, without asking
to finger a girls sweater, and say "what fabric is this"
a kid is along those lines. Its about invading personal space
not about you being a pervert
except for the OP, because he is taking the news its bad form really oddly
Yes, I agree which is why I said that in my post.
I just think it's odd when someone asks a question, then when people answer, rather than saying "oh - I get it, I just was unaware. Gotcha - thanks for clarifying", they actually argue - or at the very least call parents overly dramatic for it. And then their usernames are (at least in the OP's case).....eyebrow raising.
I was standing in line at the grocery store behind a couple who put their 1 yr. old daughter in the cart so she was staring at me the whole time. Normally, I'm too busy looking at my phone to care, but this little girl was cute as a button and just kept staring at me. So I decided to be a clown and make funny faces at her, and of course she smiled and giggled and it brightened my day.
I wanted to give her a pat on the head or pinch her cheeks or tickle her nose, but would this be considered rude and inappropriate without asking her parents first ? I didn't want to cause a "scene".
I would think most rational people would consider this OK, but I know we live in a fear-mongering society where every stranger is considered a violent child molester until proven otherwise.
Let me know your thoughts.
I don't like when people touch my two year old. It has nothing to do with sex, and more to do with her safety. I don't know if you have the measles or the flu.
I want her to know she is in control of HER body and that she doesn't have to let strangers touch her. How do I teach that if strangers just randomly touch her?
I just think it's odd when someone asks a question, then when people answer, rather than saying "oh - I get it, I just was unaware. Gotcha - thanks for clarifying", they actually argue - or at the very least call parents overly dramatic for it. And then their usernames are (at least in the OP's case).....eyebrow raising.
I was standing in line at the grocery store behind a couple who put their 1 yr. old daughter in the cart so she was staring at me the whole time. Normally, I'm too busy looking at my phone to care, but this little girl was cute as a button and just kept staring at me. So I decided to be a clown and make funny faces at her, and of course she smiled and giggled and it brightened my day.
I wanted to give her a pat on the head or pinch her cheeks or tickle her nose, but would this be considered rude and inappropriate without asking her parents first ? I didn't want to cause a "scene".
I would think most rational people would consider this OK, but I know we live in a fear-mongering society where every stranger is considered a violent child molester until proven otherwise.
Let me know your thoughts.
If you touch my 1 year old daughter while standing in line, for any reason, I will knock you flat on your face. Yes, you are WAY out of line to even think this is ok.
we worry about germs....even from the cleanest person.
You should probably understand that exposure to germs is how children develop immunity.
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