Are Daughters Really Harder To Raise Than Sons? (teens, baby, pregnant)
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I am so sick of people saying daughters are harder to raise than sons! I don't think gender should be an issue with parenting. What does everyone think? What is everyone's personal experience?
My mom always said this: It annoyed the heck out of me and became a self fulfilling prophecy. She MADE things much harder for us. I got the brunt of her narcissism and her final flailings to gain control over her family since I was the youngest.
My oldest brother got a speeding ticket in high school. He flunked out of Johns Hopkins his freshman year. He walked out of the house during a fight with my mom, got in the car and moved to Houston for 6 months. But he is still the one she reveres and trusts the most. He can do no wrong. He did turn everything around eventually but now he is reclusive and has little to do with Mom. Go figure!
I don't think it's that gender is an "issue" when it comes to parenting, it's that girls present an entirely different set of problems and challenges that can be tougher to deal with, especially nowadays. I don't have a daughter, only a 4 yr old son but we do another baby on the way, which we find out the gender of in a month. Honestly, I'm hoping for a girl, because my son is so physically demanding that he simply tires me out lol. With a girl, they tend to be less physical, and I can deal with mental stress a girl would bring on.
No, they're not. I think there is a smidgen of truth in the pay now or pay later theory (boys are harder when they're young, girls are harder once hey hit puberty) but I don't think it's a valid across the board statement. The problems children bring are different with gender but also with personality, and they all brings problems of some type.
Usually, yes... Girls are usually easy when they are young and more difficult when they get older. Boys are usually more difficult when they are young and easy when they get older. Of course, they're are exceptions.
Gender is an issue in parenting because that's the way our society works - you're gonna' have to get over it.
Yes I agree with the posters who say boys may be more difficult early on and girls more difficult as they are older.
looking back my daughter was really harder to raise than my son, she was more complicated to keep it simple. My son was a handful but he was out in the open about it. My daughter was quieter about it and managed to slip by me on things.
I usually hear it from people who then mention how girls get pregnant. Well, yes, but guys aren't off the hook if that happens AND they can knock up more than one at once! I think it all evens out. I complain about the cost and variety of girl clothes, but boy shoes are dang expensive and they tend to go into sports more. Boys have higher car insurance rates ... girls have makeup and hair products and periods. It's a wash in my opinion.
Boys can be a handful when they're younger, so there's a tendency to discipline them more and be tougher on them when they're young.
Girls are (usually) easier when they're young. Parents are more delicate with their young daughters. A boy with a sassy mouth must be corrected but sometimes when a daughter acts the same way, the parents think it's cute. Once the girl hits puberty, if you haven't been firm and instilled proper values, it's nearly impossible to switch. Boys will accept firm discipline as teens because they've grown up with it. Teenage girls aren't used to that, so they may be more inclined to rebel.
I'm only speaking about personal experiences.
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