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I say it all the time. It takes 10 seconds? They tell me the truth including if they've already asked him. NBD
On big things sure...but asking to go to a friends home? My husband would winder why I could make up my own mind if I felt I had to consult about everything.
Here you say that the girl's dad should have advised his wife he said no. I'm not even touching why it's mom's responsibility to call the friend when the conversation is between dad and daughter.
Please read my posts again! I AGREED with you! !!!!
And what happens if they go to a planned movie where cells have to be turned off or to some other (planned) activity where they might not hear a phone, such as ice skating, and your plans change? You can't plan out every contingency.
That's different because it's a planned activity. This was not. Or if the Grandparents did plan it they didn't tell the other child's parent(s) (the OP). That is the big problem here; communication.
Even if someone thinks it's ok to do something with someone else's child, they should always ask. That covers them if something happens and is respectful. If they tell someone ahead of time, they won't have to worry about being somewhere where a phone can't be used or heard.
In this day and age of technology, there is no excuse to not communicate with another parent. I get that this was the grandparents but they still need to be up on the times and know that most parents like communication.
Regarding the daughter, if she knew she was "playing them" and purposely did it, then yes, that's even more reason for her to be in trouble. If she honestly, innocently didn't think to tell the mom the dad said no, or that she should be telling her parents what they were doing, then I don't think she should be in that much trouble. Maybe a stern talking to and talking with the other kid's parents and grandparents. For a kid, sometimes that's embarrassing enough and enough punishment.
I do think the OP should have talked with the Grandparents before, but maybe she never expected them to not communicate with her if she never had that happen before.
On big things sure...but asking to go to a friends home? My husband would winder why I could make up my own mind if I felt I had to consult about everything.
That's not why I ask. I'm not asking him permission to give them permission. I'm making sure they haven't already asked him to go.
That's different because it's a planned activity. This was not. Or if the Grandparents did plan it they didn't tell the other child's parent(s) (the OP). That is the big problem here; communication.
Even if someone thinks it's ok to do something with someone else's child, they should always ask. That covers them if something happens and is respectful. If they tell someone ahead of time, they won't have to worry about being somewhere where a phone can't be used or heard.
In this day and age of technology, there is no excuse to not communicate with another parent. I get that this was the grandparents but they still need to be up on the times and know that most parents like communication.
Regarding the daughter, if she knew she was "playing them" and purposely did it, then yes, that's even more reason for her to be in trouble. If she honestly, innocently didn't think to tell the mom the dad said no, or that she should be telling her parents what they were doing, then I don't think she should be in that much trouble. Maybe a stern talking to and talking with the other kid's parents and grandparents. For a kid, sometimes that's embarrassing enough and enough punishment.
I do think the OP should have talked with the Grandparents before, but maybe she never expected them to not communicate with her if she never had that happen before.
That's not the point I was responding to. The mom I was responding to wants to be informed of her child's every movement, in case her plans change. You simply can't plan for every single thing that might ever happen.
That's not why I ask. I'm not asking him permission to give them permission. I'm making sure they haven't already asked him to go.
So? If you don't have a problem with them going...what's the issue? Going to a friends house is not a major issue. If one parent has such a huge issue about something and they aren't just being lazy...then they need to communicate this to the other parent....not punish the kid.
You really clear every choice you make with your children by someone else?
So? If you don't have a problem with them going...what's the issue? Going to a friends house is not a major issue. If one parent has such a huge issue about something and they aren't just being lazy...then they need to communicate this to the other parent....not punish the kid.
You really clear every choice you make with your children by someone else?
No I don't clear every choice I make for my children. I make sure they didn't already ask my husband. There's a difference.
I understand you are getting off on the idea that I am under the power of my husband in some way but it would be nice if you stuck with what I actually said.
I may not have a problem with my child going to his friend's house but if my husband already said no, then the answer is no. Same as if I already said no. Got it yet?
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