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It is a big deal, actually, especially where there is no younger parent around.
When you are in your 20s, you want your parents' help, not the other way around. I think she was very selfish. I also don't understand the point of giving birth when the genetic material isn't yours. Why not just adopt a child already born? Baffling.
I agree.
I can't imagine being a 20 year old with a 70 year old mother/father whom I probably have to take care of and maybe even 'babysit' them. I really agree that 20 is the age where your parents help you transition into the adult world, show you this or that, and not the other way round.
I was looking into my family history and a lot of my ancestors were having babies well into their 40s. I think the oldest one was one woman who gave birth to her last child at 48. The fathers were fathering their kids into their 50s and occasionally their 60s (and would be on their 2nd or 3rd wife by then!)
As a NICU RN, I see this often, using donor eggs in almost every case, the babies are beautiful & healthy. I had a 50 year old lawyer Mom who had triplets and a 2 year old at home. A delightful family.
Not at all uncommon where I work! These mature parents have so much patience & time for their children as they are not building a career and a slave to the house payment & bills. The kids reap the benefits.
I know two women who gave birth after 50. In both cases the babies were healthy. These were women who thrived on pregnancy. Both had had two earlier pregnancies; one in their teens, another in late 20's or early 30's. These women got high off the pregnancy hormones, and positively glowed. One is in her 70's now, the other, in her 80's. The kids are grown, both moms are healthy. Those late-in-life relationships that lead to the pregnancies at 50+ turned out to be the most stable.
eeeek!!! good for her but no thanks. Mom will be 69 when the kid is 18. Health can decline rapidly at that age. I sure wouldn't want that responsibility of needing to take care of my mother right after High School, attending College and holding a job. I feel sorry for the kid.
It will keep the mother young to have a baby in her later life. If she's healthy enough to conceive at her age, then she'll probably be good to last until 90's. That's my take on it. Don't make out that a woman who is 51 is so over the hill she'll never be able to make her kid happy. That baby will be her joy in the Autumn and Winter of her life.
eeeek!!! good for her but no thanks. Mom will be 69 when the kid is 18. Health can decline rapidly at that age. I sure wouldn't want that responsibility of needing to take care of my mother right after High School, attending College and holding a job. I feel sorry for the kid.
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Originally Posted by HappyFarm34
good point. Although I don't recommend it. My cousin was born when his dad was in his very late 40's. Few years later, he passed on. Now he has to spend the rest of his childhood and life without a father. Its just not natural to have children decades later after turning 18. And the chances of dying while the child is young is much greater.
Dying and leaving a child behind isn't something only older parents do. Many parents under the age 40 die from a variety of reasons you just don't know what will happen in your situation. At the same time parents who have children relatively young can unexpectedly get ill and require the help of their barely adult children. To say that it's not natural doesn't hold up to the fact that it happens naturally all the time
If a person takes care of their health, 69 isn't that old! For crying out loud! My Mother lived to be 85, and my father lived to be 92. I was born when they were in their mid 30's. They both needed my help in their 80's but before that they were good to go on their own! My mother would take walks in her late 70's around the neighborhood with me in my 30's. We were very close.
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. It will be great fun to be the mother/father of a teenager when you're ready for Social Security.
