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When you go to the police station to file charges when minors are involved, the STATE or municipality takes over. It isn't the parents against this child but the state, county, or city it happened in against this juvenile. Especially since multiple people have filed charges and there are minors involved.
Where did you get the idea that multiple people have filed charges? Actually the police said no one wanted to file charges.
You should have called the police when he started screaming and cursing.
You let this go on way too long.
I'm trying to figure out why you needed to ask if you should call the cops.
He sexually assaulted a child and assaulted another. You are the person responsible for these children.
If my kid was screwed up because of this, I'd go after you in court because you stood by and did nothing while my child was sexually assaulted.
It's really easy to sit here on your computer and pass judgment based on what you thought you would have done in the same situation. Cut her some slack. It was a tense situation, she came here for advice, and now she's doing something about it.
Okay guys, I just got back from the police station. Someone else called it in yesterday and the police are doing nothing. Apparently other parents don't want to press charges. I asked if I could at least press charges for the property damage ( my sons ball) and pretty much got laughed out of the station
And this is the other reason everyone needs to calm the heck down. Cops are for the most part useless these days. Unless they think they can make an easy arrest or fine you for something, they aren't going to bother. Pathetic, but true. "Call the cops" isn't the answer to every problem. I think the OP handled things just fine. And yeah, there's always the concern about assault on a child. Especially considering how the parents of the delinquent acted, all she would have needed to do is lay a finger on the kid, even if it was in self-defense, and people like those parents would have her in court. She'd be the one getting hauled off to jail, while there would still be no consequences for the kid.
OP said that she had Mace but did not use it for fear of getting in trouble.
Yeah, because it would have been assault on a minor.
This is not as black and white of a situation as so many people here seem to want it to be. Lots of talk about what everyone would have done if they were there ... yeah, sure. It's easy to be a tough guy when you're not in the middle of it.
I can relate to the OP in the fact that my house was the place to go since I was a stay at home Mom and I got tired of being the babysitter, but I knew where my child was and he was safe.
I'm sure this is going to be a tremendous lesson OP. I wouldn't want to be in your shoes for anything in the world. You did your best by getting between that kid. I can understand about the Mace. If it would have hit one of the kids you were caring for, those parents would sue you.
You came here for help and you got slammed. I'm so sorry for that. You give of yourself to these street people and you get sh*t on for it. I did too.
Those kids that you're taking under your wing will be in the news in the next 10 years because they got shot because they're in a gang. Their Moms will be on TV crying, meanwhile they threw them to the streets to be raised by anyone that'll take them.
I lived in a not so nice area when my kids were young. I had 3 kids come to my house that were 2 brothers and a cousin and the youngest was 3 years old! I looked outside and my kid didn't have a bike to ride on. I sent them home and told my son he couldn't be friends.
You must really have a big heart. You couldn't PAY me to take 6 kids to the park and be the only adult.
My heart goes out to you. I don't know what I would have done had I been in your shoes.
The only advice I can give you is to try to figure out a way to keep these kids away from yours if none of them have responsible parents. I know... easier said than done.
Good luck and don't worry about replying back. You have enough to deal with as it is.
I"d have kicked the kid in the guts when he did not stop his assaultive behavior. ditto his parents if they wanted any.
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