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My wife and I are divorcing, amicable, how do we tell our nieces that see us no longer together. They are 5 year old twins and 7 yr old.
They went through a horrible divorce, still going. I told them my wife had to move home to take care of her Mom that is sick, mostly true, and that there is a change in the future you might be able to see her 1-2 times or on Skype. They ask because they love me ex a lot how is she, where is she?
My ex and I have two good mutal friends she has seen their kids without me and I haven't so when I run into them if one of their kids asks like me neice did, do you acknowledge to a 5-7 year old you are getting divorce?
It's inappropriate for little kids to ask , but they care , are curious and ask.
I don't really want to tell them our business, and I don't want to educate someone eles's kids on what divorce means.
I am not sure if I am over thinking this but it's new ground for me, for sure.
Tell them the truth for their own sake. Otherwise they will end up coming to their own conclusions and that could lead to far bigger issues… just my two cents...
not inappropriate at all for little kids to ask. That's what little kids do. That's how they learn. Let the adults know you are anxious about their comments and you would appreciate it if they would explain to them you and your wife are no longer together and will not be coming around together. I hope you and the ex will continue to be in the lives of these kids in some fashion since they seem to like you.
"Ex and I just haven't been getting along very well for a while so we decided it would be best if we lived in separate homes. We both still love you though!" (or just "I'll still get to see you a lot though, so don't worry!") and a big smile.
You could also ask their parents how they want it to be handled too, since the kids are so young.
Thanks all I asked because their Dad is going through a lot and he hadn't addressed it,
but it seems he has now since they didn't bring it up last weekend for the first time thank god.
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