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Sadly we live in an 'entitlement' society. Now their parents will probably claim discrimination, and God forbid they are a different race than her daughter. This poor woman's hands are tied in our PC nazi world.
Is this sort of insulting, negative attitude typical of the type of parents who think it's ok for a kid to invite the whole class except a couple?
P.S. Nazis would say that it IS ok to exclude kids, especially if they're Jews, Prussians, Blacks, or any other type of people the Nazis encouraged ostracising.
Is this sort of insulting, negative attitude typical of the type of parents who think it's ok for a kid to invite the whole class except a couple?
P.S. Nazis would say that it IS ok to exclude kids, especially if they're Jews, Prussians, Blacks, or any other type of people the Nazis encouraged ostracising.
You are, of course, welcome to invite whomever you like to a private party, as long as you are discreet and your 5 year old doesn't go to school and tell these boys, in a moment of exasperation, "I'm having a birthday party, and EVERYONE but YOU is invited!! So THERE!"
What are the chances? Yeah . . .
Personally, I think if you're going to invite over 75% of the class, you might as well invite the other 4 kids. Let's face it, they may not care for HER, either, and may choose not to come (funny how no one ever thinks of that :-) It's not too early to teach kindness and consideration -- and that while kindness may not change the other person, it's not why you should be kind. You should be kind because it fosters an understanding, compassionate and sympathetic empathy for others. Frankly, dinosaurs don't sound like enough to make the kid a social pariah at 5 years old. :-)
if you're worried about their behavior, you might want to invite the kids' parents, too.
With my kids' birthdays, there was the "age plus 1" rule -- If they were turning 6, they could invite 7 friends. We took cupcakes to school (those were the days, it's probably not even allowed any longer! :-( ) to celebrate with the class, but the party itself was just for good friends. It kept things manageable. After 10 or 11, the rule was put aside, for pool parties, arcade parties, movie parties, etc.
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My opinion may not be the majority, but yes, I think it's rude to invite all the girls and most of the boys but exclude four boys. Whole class is fine; girls only is fine; a mix of some classmates and other friends is fine too. But in the situation you describe, I would not feel right leaving those few boys out. They are not mean bullies, they just have different interests from your daughter, as is expected at this age. I would tell her that we are inviting everyone, and explain that the boys don't have to be her best friends but she needs to be kind to them.
Why exactly are you letting a 6 yr old decide invitations? Dislike of dinosaurs means someone will be excluded? I could understand if this was a sleepover, but its a party that's inviting nearly the entire class. I would invite everybody in this case. Its a perfect learning opportunity.
Think about it. The class members will talk about the party in class sometime, maybe. The missing kids will realize they weren't invited. You're pretty much inviting nearly everybody anyways. The few exclusions? Not very nice, I think. There's good reasoning behind the school insisting that invitations be for the entire class.
I do understand that people who are new to the thread probably haven't gone and read all ~250 replies. So I just want to repeat that I did take the advice of the majority and invited the 4 boys, so the whole class is now invited.
I do understand that people who are new to the thread probably haven't gone and read all ~250 replies. So I just want to repeat that I did take the advice of the majority and invited the 4 boys, so the whole class is now invited.
No way in your wildest dreams could you have imagined what your simple question turned into!
No way in your wildest dreams could you have imagined what your simple question turned into!
I know, right? I didn't expect it to be some hot-button issue, like spanking or extended breastfeeding or something!
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