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I'm glad this mother spoke up and I'd like to think I would have as well. I can certainly understand how some parents and kids will push the envelope on appropriate attire for a 6th grade pool party but the ones who are dressed inappropriately should be asked to leave instead of making all the girls wear T shirts over their swimsuits. But we all know kids at that age are at different levels of development and some girls will be busty while others are flat chested. None of them should be made to feel inadequate or shameful about their bodies. I think some tightass parent is the one who came up with that rule.
But if the girls aren't covered up, how are the boys supposed to stop themselves from staring?
I hope you are being facetious...boys need to learn how to look without teasing and without their mouths wide open. And they need to be taught this way before 6th grade.
I get it. It sounds like in the past they've had girls come in barely there bikinis or swimsuits that were too small and their baby boobage was on display, which usually makes adults squirm. So they decided to solve the problem by making all the girls wear Tshirts. And by inserting the no speedos rule they were taking care of a similar issue with the boys. So I think their intentions were understandable.
But I agree with the mom here, making only the girls cover up creates a whole new set of problems. Everybody wears a shirt or no one does. No one wants to define what "appropriate swimwear" is so that is how come they come up with rules like this.
To me the best solution is to just accept that some girls will come in tight stuff and teach everyone how to act appropriately when that happens. Make rules about behavior and not clothing.
Don't have an issue with the policy although boys should have covered up too to be equally fair. DD had a similar rule when the kids had a school trip to a water park. T-Shirts-- girls and boys. Makes it easy for everyone.
My kids' schools have water park days for the "graduates" (fifth, eighth, and twelfth grades). There are guidelines sent home about appropriate swimsuits. No bikinis in elementary school, no string bikinis or monokinis at all, no thongs, etc. If you wear something inappropriate, they call your parents to bring you something else or take you home. There's a thread on the Fashion forum with pictures of horribly skimpy prom dresses; we have rules about those too. I think the school was out of line. Everybody has to wear t-shirts or nobody does.
All of the kids should wear T shirts, or make it optional. Why body shame the girls? Ugh.
Glad this mom spoke up.
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