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Why does a family have a right to have 1 or 2, regardless of their ability to afford them, but not 5 or 6? The fact is, at least in the US, you have the right to have as many as you want.
No matter the number, I don't see it as selfish. Frankly, calling it such is just RUDE. In fact, again speaking for the US, my six may prove the salvation of yours or others social security. If you haven't seen the math, the percentage of those contributing to SS vs those taking it has been dropping. You (or others) may be glad I stepped up to the plate.
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I know four families with 4 or more kids who have claimed bankruptcy or are ass over teakettle in debt. ..and are a complete drain on our system. But hey little Johnny needs a new pair cleats..hmm , pay the oil bill or cleats? Well Johnny cant go without cleats!
I will edit my response to this...more than 2 kids is selfish if you cant afford it EASILY. That okay?
I think as long as one has the mental, emotional and financial resources, an ideal family can be quite large. I do think there is a limit that might seem inappropriate but I don't know what that number is.
I have 3. For me, the ideal was 4 but my husband and I decided that once I reached 40 we should stop for the various obvious reasons. I have always wanted to adopt and we are still (well, he is) deciding if it is right for us.
I grew up in a family of 7 kids and it did seem too large at times. We were immigrants so the cliche of the older kids watching the younger ones was true for us. I would never recommend this route. As a parent, I make it a point to make sure that I do my job as a parent and not put this burden on my oldest.
I think once a person has to "customize" necessities that it might be too large, i.e., custom car, table, etc.
Why does a family have a right to have 1 or 2, regardless of their ability to afford them, but not 5 or 6? The fact is, at least in the US, you have the right to have as many as you want.
No matter the number, I don't see it as selfish. Frankly, calling it such is just RUDE. In fact, again speaking for the US, my six may prove the salvation of yours or others social security. If you haven't seen the math, the percentage of those contributing to SS vs those taking it has been dropping. You (or others) may be glad I stepped up to the plate.
cd :O)
Haha, I always say that about social security when people seem to question why I had more than 2.
In todays world more than 3 is just plain SELFISH. I don't care how much money you have.
So you're basing this on 2 kids = replacement rate. In that case, I don't see why it's selfish to have 3 kids, when you're helping make up for all the people who have one or none.
So you're basing this on 2 kids = replacement rate. In that case, I don't see why it's selfish to have 3 kids, when you're helping make up for all the people who have one or none.
3 isn't selfish as I said..but you have TO BE ABLE TO TRULY AFFORD IT.
So you're basing this on 2 kids = replacement rate. In that case, I don't see why it's selfish to have 3 kids, when you're helping make up for all the people who have one or none.
Or...is it that the people who have 1 or 0 are rebalancing for those having 5 or 6?
I have 3. For me, the ideal was 4 but my husband and I decided that once I reached 40 we should stop for the various obvious reasons. I have always wanted to adopt and we are still (well, he is) deciding if it is right for us.
Tell your husband to hurry up and make up his mind. Many places (internationally at least) will not adopt to people 45 and older. Given that it can take a couple of years to go through the process, if you haven't started by age 42 or so, it may be too late.
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