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Old 06-15-2015, 12:55 PM
 
Location: Tennessee
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A friend of mine apparently found a condom in her 16 yr olds bedroom. She said that his girlfriend comes over, and they go to his room.
Now, she doesn't know what to do about it. She says that he wears condoms and he knows the importance of being safe. Said they will find somewhere to have sex, so why not let them feel free to have it at home?
Hmmm...I told her that is disrespectful, for her son to be having sex in his room, but she argues that she is doing the right thing.

What is right?
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Old 06-15-2015, 01:03 PM
 
Location: MA
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A friend of mine apparently found a condom in her 16 yr olds bedroom. She said that his girlfriend comes over, and they go to his room.
Now, she doesn't know what to do about it. She says that he wears condoms and he knows the importance of being safe. Said they will find somewhere to have sex, so why not let them feel free to have it at home?
Hmmm...I told her that is disrespectful, for her son to be having sex in his room, but she argues that she is doing the right thing.

What is right?
wow that is kind of a hard question. Kudos for him at least wearing a condom, but, I probably wouldn't allow them to go to his room. I'm not really sure that is the right answer though
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Old 06-15-2015, 01:06 PM
 
Location: here
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There is no black and white answer here. In this case, the horse has already left the barn. She's right, that it won't do any good now to forbid it. I think it is kind of weird to do that at your parents' house while they're home, but whatever. If they are all ok with it... When my kids are that age, they probably won't be allowed to have GF's in their rooms with the door closed.
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Old 06-15-2015, 01:12 PM
 
Location: Tennessee
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That's what I find weird, is him having sex while his parents are home!

Shoot, when my husband and I went to visit my Mom, we were there for 6 days and he said that he couldn't go that long without sex. I told him I could not have sex and enjoy it in their house. Just weird! Well, sure enough. I gave in, but was not enjoyable. Kinda like a hurry up deal.
My Mom said that they heard a cat scratchin` last night.
Never again!
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Old 06-15-2015, 01:20 PM
 
Location: sumter
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No, I would not allow a 16 year old to have sex in my house under any circumstances. I wouldn't knowingly let my son have sex with somebody else's daughter in my house, because I wouldn't want another parent to allow my daughter to do the same. To me, that is just encouraging them to have sex. I know I couldn't totally stop them, but it just wont be in my house. If I'm away at work or out and about, then I obviously can't control what happens if I'm not there. But, they both will know where I stand on the issue. I would want no role in somebody's daughter getting pregnant, especially under my roof.
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Old 06-15-2015, 01:23 PM
 
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No, I would not allow a 16 year old to have sex in my house under any circumstances. I wouldn't knowingly let my son have sex with somebody else's daughter in my house, because I wouldn't want another parent to allow my daughter to do the same. To me, that is just encouraging them to have sex. I know I couldn't totally stop them, but it just wont be in my house. If I'm away at work or out and about, then I obviously can't control what happens if I'm not there. But, they both will know where I stand on the issue. I would want no role in somebody's daughter getting pregnant, especially under my roof.
I think the key is making sure they know that from the get-go, instead of trying to back track later.
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Old 06-15-2015, 01:23 PM
 
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To each his own house rules. Allowing it to go on under my nose during high school was not something I was comfortable with. It happened anyway, and I let my son know he was setting a horrible example for his younger brothers, and it was not to occur again.

Once they left for college, I was far more accepting. As long as they are in a relationship, they can share a bed in my house. No one night stands.
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Old 06-15-2015, 01:24 PM
 
Location: Sarasota, FL
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I would want no role in somebody's daughter getting pregnant, especially under my roof.
She's still a minor. Last thing you'd want her to tell her parents when she explains how she got pregnant was that she did it in your house and it was apparently ok with you.
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Old 06-15-2015, 01:26 PM
 
Location: sumter
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She's still a minor. Last thing you'd want her to tell her parents when she explains how she got pregnant was that she did it in your house and it was apparently ok with you.
Exactly, I would feel so horrible.
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Old 06-15-2015, 01:36 PM
 
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A friend of mine apparently found a condom in her 16 yr olds bedroom. She said that his girlfriend comes over, and they go to his room.
Now, she doesn't know what to do about it. She says that he wears condoms and he knows the importance of being safe. Said they will find somewhere to have sex, so why not let them feel free to have it at home?
If I were that girl's mother, I would be in this mother's face at her doorstep once I found out she did nothing about them having sex in their home.
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