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This. I've heard it from women who were born in the first quarter of the 20th century.
In the age of the internet, it is much easier to spread the word far and wide via blogs, Facebook, etc. It would make sense that it seems like a new thing, when it probably isn't at all.
I'm thinking that perhaps it's because I grew up with the knowledge that neither my grandmother nor mother were particularly enamored of parenthood that I was pleasantly surprised to find I enjoy it. I don't mean to portray myself as Suzy Sunshine, but I really do like family life, and I'm not particularly stressed out about it. Realistically, though, I'm looking forward to this next stage as the empty nest years rapidly approach. I'm excited to see what they have in store for my husband and me.
Now, my personal experience aside, Syracusa, I think it's fairly presumptuous for you to assume what generations of parents in your nation of origin felt about raising children. We project what we want and need to see in others, and I think there's more than a bit of that going on here. Years of reading your posts have convinced me that you view your own history and culture through rose-colored glasses. While I suspect you think you are inured to it, I believe you are just as vulnerable to confirmation bias as the rest of us.
I think like everything especially these days it depends on the kids .Here is so much outside influence that some kids can be terrible experience even when they leave the home. Modern life; plain and simple. To put a word in for kids seems some hate their parents also . Because they are terrible parents. I have seen some.
Sure there are tradeoffs. Technology and ability to travel create other forms of recreation that are limited by parenthood. But the human race would go down the drain.
In a word, she either has post-partum depression that she never addressed, or is selfish. I hope the former.
I don't identify with those women. I've loved being a mom. It sounds to me like these women possibly didn't know themselves before they had kids. They were crowd followers.
Sure there are tradeoffs. Technology and ability to travel create other forms of recreation that are limited by parenthood. But the human race would go down the drain.
In a word, she either has post-partum depression that she never addressed, or is selfish. I hope the former.
Depressed or selfish? What, she can't just simply dislike parenthood for what it is? Narrow-minded thinking there.
While I cannot relate to this mom when she suggests she wishes she'd never had kids (I would have wanted them anyway), I can relate to the modern burden she feels.
Parenthood has been socially engineered to become a nightmare that everyone must hypocritically refer to as "hard yet so worth it". BS.
Modern society ruined parenting.
Now, this might not be such a bad thing, after all, because more and more people will choose to skip it, as it's already happening.
This means more population control - which I am always game for.
Pfft. Just don't hang out/facebook/pinterest with the b----es who are making you feel like you're not doing enough or that your life would be perfect without kids. You think there hasn't been backbiting and one-upmanship between catty mommies since time immemorial?
The only thing that might be a little new is that childless people feel like they need to crow about it to counterbalance the voluntary pointlessness of their existence--avoiding the burden of parenthood used to be considered shameful. Not saying it's better or worse now, just different.
Parenthood has always been hard, requiring a brain chemical imbalance called love to anesthetize parents. Then again, so is backpacking around the world. So is caring for a dying relative. So are a million other hard aspects that make up life for those who actually choose to, or are forced to, grow up someday, live a whole life complete with both ups AND downs, and stop acting like man-childs/woman-childs.
There's no hidden iceberg. If you actually live life, instead of hiding from it, sometimes things are going to be hard and you're not going to feel like sharing the shi**y parts of it on f-ing pinterest.
Pfft. Just don't hang out/facebook/pinterest with the b----es who are making you feel like you're not doing enough or that your life would be perfect without kids. You think there hasn't been backbiting and one-upmanship between catty mommies since time immemorial?
The only thing that might be a little new is that childless people feel like they need to crow about it to counterbalance the voluntary pointlessness of their existence--avoiding the burden of parenthood used to be considered shameful. Not saying it's better or worse now, just different.
Parenthood has always been hard, requiring a brain chemical imbalance called love to anesthetize parents. Then again, so is backpacking around the world. So is caring for a dying relative. So are a million other hard aspects that make up life for those who actually choose to, or are forced to, grow up someday, live a whole life complete with both ups AND downs, and stop acting like man-childs/woman-childs.
There's no hidden iceberg. If you actually live life, instead of hiding from it, sometimes things are going to be hard and you're not going to feel like sharing the shi**y parts of it on f-ing pinterest.
Ohhh...it was that easy and I didn't know it. Parenthood has always been the same. Thank you for clarifying it for everybody.
The rapidly growing childless-by
-choice demographic begs to differ...and having the last word.
And this is a good thing.
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