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I think most often its more who can fiancé the family best; really. Its obvious most father do not want to be and are not same as mother really. To me its the same as saying women typical can compete with men in matters of physical strength as a population.
Nurturing is a learned trait. My father spent his life raising dogs, so when I came along, he jumped right in on the raising. My male relative who does at least 50 percent of the typical "mom" role stuff (since he and his wife both work) grew up taking care of younger siblings, and actually knew far more than his wife about child care when they both became first-time parents. I'm highly nurturing, but it's not because I've got a vagina - I spent my early life helping my father take care of his hunting dogs and was the oldest of several cousins.
Oxytocin promotes bonding between a mother and child, but fathers get a similar hormonal reward when they care for their children.
Tell me how is being unable to be with your own children for more than 30 minutes "bring a great dad"?
OP didn't say anything about not being able to hang with the kids more than 30 minutes. He said 1/2 a day alone with the kids. Besides, he lives with the kids, his wife, and financially supports the whole family. That's a tall order. Work isn't fun. Otherwise it would be called fun, not work.
I would love to be a stay at home dad. My kids are 8 and 5. The way it is now I go to work at 5:30am so I can get off earlier. I get home about 15 mins before the school bus gets there. My wife works full time and is also in nursing school. Homework, dinner, showers, cheerleading, soccer, PTA , etc. Thats all on me. It is alot of work and it does get frustrating but it's pretty awesome too. So, being a stay at home dad for me would just be sitting around until school gets out.
Except full time stay at home parents typically take on the role of primary housekeeper as well, which means doing the household chores, preparing meals, grocery shopping etc. There isn't usually a whole lot of sitting around all day!
OP didn't say anything about not being able to hang with the kids more than 30 minutes. He said 1/2 a day alone with the kids. Besides, he lives with the kids, his wife, and financially supports the whole family. That's a tall order. Work isn't fun. Otherwise it would be called fun, not work.
Right...except OP would rather be at work than home with his kids for 1/2 a day. Obviously he finds work more "fun" than hands-on parenting.
Let's not start "parent wars" though. Most parents are working hard whether at home, from home, full time, part time or some mix of the above.
After my first child I had to return to work a week earlier than expected for a training session. To fill the gap before the babysitter was available my husband took that week off and stayed home with the baby. He was scared of the responsibility and unsure of himself so he ended up not leaving the house the entire week and by Friday was saying "I don't know how anybody can do this! I can't don't want to do this!". Haha.
I'm a somewhat SAHD. My wife works days, and I work midnights in order to avoid paying for daycare or a full time babysitter for our school aged children. I have to admit, the first couple weeks of summer are always a bit of an adjustment. After a couple weeks, we usually get into the swing of things and I adjust to a broken sleeping pattern. Typically, four hours of sleep when I get home while the kids eat breakfast and play quietly or watch TV, then I make lunch and we go to the park, pool, grocery store, or on some kind of outing. Then I make dinner and nap for a couple hours before going to work.
Except full time stay at home parents typically take on the role of primary housekeeper as well, which means doing the household chores, preparing meals, grocery shopping etc. There isn't usually a whole lot of sitting around all day!
That's pretty much my life. Luckily, I like to cook, I'm OCD about my kitchen, the kids do chores for a commission, and I'm better at grocery shopping than my wife is.
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