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What would you say if you asked your child to do something like mow the lawn or take out the trash and their reply was something along the lines of asking you to do it yourself or why can't you do it?
Usually I respond "because I'm making dinner" or "because I'm doing the laundry" or "because I'm washing dishes and everyone in this family has to help out".
If that still doesn't work, then it's "because if you don't, you will go to time out, and you will keep going to time out until you get it done". (If they are too old for timeouts, I would start taking away privileges).
Now if you as the parent are sitting on your butt watching TV and you ask your kid to work and they respond that way, then to me that's your cue to get up and do something worthwhile. Set a good example.
How old is your child?
I certainly would want a teen mowing the yard, not a child.
I don't have any kids... And sure, hypothetical let's say it's a teen...
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Originally Posted by pkbab5
Usually I respond "because I'm making dinner" or "because I'm doing the laundry" or "because I'm washing dishes and everyone in this family has to help out".
If that still doesn't work, then it's "because if you don't, you will go to time out, and you will keep going to time out until you get it done". (If they are too old for timeouts, I would start taking away privileges).
Now if you as the parent are sitting on your butt watching TV and you ask your kid to work and they respond that way, then to me that's your cue to get up and do something worthwhile. Set a good example.
Hmm, interesting perspective. If I had of asked my parents something like that, after I came back from being slapped into the middle of next week, they would have replied with something like, "Because I pay the bills!..."
1st mistake: ASKING?! I don't ASK my kids to do anything; I TELL them to. If they say anything after that, the only other thing left to say is "For your own sake; please don't misunderstand this as a conversation!"
1st mistake: ASKING?! I don't ASK my kids to do anything; I TELL them to. If they say anything after that, the only other thing left to say is "For your own sake; please don't misunderstand this as a conversation!"
Idk.... I ask my kids to do things instead of demanding, because I want them to ask me for things instead of demanding. Mutual respect can go long way.
My oldest is the only one who has said "no" or "I don't want to," and we talk about why I need her to help. If she doesn't want to do as I ask, then she has to sit in her room on her bed until I am done doing what I asked of her. She rarely picks that option and it usually doesn't last long if she does. If she is willing to help, she can come out and that is usually what happens.
Then they would run to do what I said, with the understanding that all privileges have been revoked and when I calm down we'll discuss whether or not I'll be sharing the new Wifi password with them, when their phones will be unlocked, if I feel like cooking anything other than MY favorites for a week or so, etc.
I would probably say, one time, that I'll pretend I didn't hear that. If they grumble and do it anyway, I'll chalk it up to bad mood. If they insisted, I'd probably do what other posters said and either say "because I just did xyz and I'm tired /busy" or remind them that I paid the bills or whatnot. Remind them that we all pitch in.
1st mistake: ASKING?! I don't ASK my kids to do anything; I TELL them to. If they say anything after that, the only other thing left to say is "For your own sake; please don't misunderstand this as a conversation!"
Lol. The most honest answer here. I ask nicely, once.
I was always asked, not told, usually preceded by, "Honey, could you please..?"
I think it's a mistake to say "Because I'm doing something else," because that implies that if the parent were free, the parent would be doing it.
I'm guessing that a better response would be something like, "It's not a matter of if I can do it. You're part of this family, and I'm asking you to do it."
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