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Are parents still teaching their daughters to be ladies? While I believe women achieving everything they may desire in their hearts, there is a certain way to carry yourself. Is that a lost art?
Things my mother taught me:
*A professional/educated women should never have to announce her background or achievement -it should be apparent by the way you dress and how you carry yourself.
*Don't be loud. Everyone in your vicinity should not clearly hear your conversation.
*The man that is a professional is looking for a woman that matches his presentation and appearance.
As a mother/father - do you teach your children to act like ladies?
I'm not teaching my daughter to be a lady in the above sense. I am teaching her to be a lady in that, hopefully, she learns self respect for herself and secondly respect for others.
Women don't dress in the manner of the past. I don't care as much what my daughter is wearing as long as her boobs and butt aren't showing. It's entirely possible to look good without putting it all on display. She likes to be cute and makes her own fashion statements, but so far, it's for her. I'm not teaching her to dress to impress guys. She does dress up or down depending upon the occasion.
She's 11 so she is still in the loud stage at home. At school, she is more reserved.
In this day and age, we do have to speak up more for our achievements. My husband has been told that at work and the same goes for my daughter. You don't have to be a braggart, but your own best promoter is you.
If you're interested in raising your daughter to be a "lady", you're way ahead of most folks already. As our society continues it's downhill slide, educated, cultured and sophisticated young people are becoming rare. Manners, courtesy, consideration, appreciation for real art and culture is fading fast. As more people think the tattooed, loud & gruff nature is "cool", the more people with authentic class will be separate from the common.
Keep your daughters (and sons...) educated in the finer aspects of life, and they will succeed. Old fashioned, sure. But the better classes are, and will remain.
I am trying to teach my daughter to have good manners, same as I would if I have a son, but to be lady-like is not my goal although I must confess to occasionally saying to her "that's not very lady-like", a relic from my own upbringing. My grandmother was always say to me "A lady is always a lady" and try to make me lady-like but I was ever the tomboy and nothing she could say or do could change me.
Ditto! I was raised to be "ladylike", didn't serve me well either . Then I joined the Marine Corps.
I wasn't raised to be much of anything and I, too, joined the Corps. That's where I learned that I represented a superior institution and I would be looked at with interest and criticism. That's where I learned there was a right and a wrong way to carry myself. That people judged you on how you presented yourself. ladylike was an unspoken but highly encouraged idea. That good personal hygiene, makeup application, conservative attire and manners would get you much further in life AND in the Marine Corps. I've been in a male-dominated industry for 30 years and I'm as ladylike as possible. And I'm good at my job and have done well.
Of course, people are often surprised to learn I was once in the Marine Corps (for 9 yrs active duty) because I'm not the typical hose-beast they imagine we all are. Thanks Bake! j/k Semper Fi.
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