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Our 16 month old daughter has an extreme preference for her daddy (me). Everything I've read said that this is a phase some kids go through and I shouldn't be worried. I'm not worried in the long term, but in the short term this can be hard on my wife (I know it would be tough on me if positions were reversed). Any suggestions on things we can do to lessen her favoritism and things I can do to help my wife from feeling bad about it?
Nothing you can do and most children go through this with one or both parents at different times.
Then there are those times she will dislike you both at the same time and want Grandma, Grandpa or the postman.
Kids are so fickle and you just go with their flow within reason when it comes to who likes whom the best at that partcular moment.
By tomorrow, next week, next month or within the next 10 minutes Mommy will be her favorite.
One of my kids would go through phases like that. It didn't bother me, my husband got to change the diapers and give the baths until that phase was passed.
Don't do anything....neither of you take it personally. Just go about your normal routines.....both of you do things for her (even if she prefers one over the other...she doesn't get to choose.)
In time things will be switched up....mommy will be the fave and you're chump change.
The goal is to have kiddo comfortable and bonded with both of you....because when she's a preteen you are both gonna drive her nuts but she will need you both.
One of my kids would go through phases like that. It didn't bother me, my husband got to change the diapers and give the baths until that phase was passed.
LOL love this!! I wish my kids went through a daddy phase!! None of them did, not for longer then a week. But daddy worked alot when they were little. Are you the primary parent? Its pretty normal if you are. It doesn't have to hurt anyone's feelings. Kids do this...then they switch.
One of my kids would go through phases like that. It didn't bother me, my husband got to change the diapers and give the baths until that phase was passed.
My Mother worked very hard to try and ensure my first word was "Dada".
Reportedly, whenever I called for "dada", he would jump up and run to me to take care of whatever I wanted.
My Mother worked very hard to try and ensure my first word was "Dada".
Reportedly, whenever I called for "dada", he would jump up and run to me to take care of whatever I wanted.
My Mom was pretty sharp
Lol! Love your mom!
OP, what I noticed in my daughter is that, if she picked up something out of the blue, chances are she will drop the habit out of the blue. With us, we used to have some routine in place. I was off from work for close to 14 months after my daughters birth and DH was working. Since I was spending most of her awake-time with her, she used to prefer me over her dad. Nevertheless, there were certain things they used to do which was exclusively them alone. That included the oil massage. He used to sing rhymes to her when doing that. It's their "special time" together.
See if your wife can get something like that in place which is exclusive them. It may help.
Kids go through it. My daughter was and is a "daddy's girl" from birth. Except when it was pajama time. Only I could help her with her pjs - it couldn't have been modesty, as it started when she was about 7 months old.
Even now, she prefers her dad to me. It's okay - our son prefers me Doesn't mean that either of them love either of us less. Someday, they'll have special mommy and me moments that she won't want you around for. My daughter and I get pedicures every year on her birthday for instance. We started when she was 6. For her 10th birthday, I had her dad come along - the next year, she asked me about a month beforehand to NOT invite him, but that doesn't mean he still isn't her favorite.
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Doesn't mean that either of them love either of us less. Someday, they'll have special mommy and me moments that she won't want you around for. My daughter and I get pedicures every year on her birthday for instance. We started when she was 6. For her 10th birthday, I had her dad come along - the next year, she asked me about a month beforehand to NOT invite him, but that doesn't mean he still isn't her favorite.
