Mother of Child bringing Boyfriend around

[remoddahouse]

Originally Posted by skilldeadly

I dont care who she dates as long as he is respectful of my daughter. Two boyfriends this year alone. Shes not dumb. Shes going to figure it out. I want to have a cordial relationship with anyone she dates because we need to operate like a family for her.

You've made your case to her. She's not going to do what you say. Contacting the guys is a no no. You have a good thing going here. You see your daughter every weekend. Don't screw it up. You don't want her making the case for less visitation because you're going crazy and contacting her boyfriends. Unless she's a bad mother, leave her to run her life.

It could be that she needs to have everyone in her life together. She might not be able to get or afford a sitter. Who knows. It's not worth fighting over. You've made your point.

[back2MD]

Originally Posted by phonelady61

omg this went from a guy asking about how he can ask his ex to limit her exposure to different guys and now it has become a molestation thread wow .

In this day and age, you got to be careful who is around your child. Op-just make sure she is not leaving her man alone with your child while she run errands or go to work, that is a huge NO NO. I don't think you would be able to stop her from bringing man around your child unless you get some kind of court order in place, she would hate you for life if you do that. Talk to her again and see if she can wait a little longer before she introduces her next love interest to your daughter. Since she is the custodial parent, she needs a life too, it's extremely difficult being a single parent, she is lucky to at least have her parents watch her child while she go out on dates, i envy that.

[JrzDefector]

Unnecessary strife. Model the behavior you want your daughter to emulate and hope it sticks.

[Frustrated68]

Originally Posted by wecaredalot

Women who bring relative STRANGERS around their children are complete idiots. I think you have every right to be concerned. What if her new boyfriend is a pedophile? What if he's abusive in some other way and hasn't shown that side of himself yet? I don't even really think it's appropriate to let a new boyfriend spend too much time around kids until you know more about him.

That's silly advise

My take is, you have no business telling her who she can bring around your daughter

And she has no business telling you who you can bring around your daughter

It has to be fair both ways. If she persists, take her to court.

Don't contact the guy, that's dumb