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Sounds like someone wants some alone time with you...and isn't getting it, or enough.
I'm a single parent too, and dating another single parent. Yes, you must take care of your kids, but if you are starting a new relationship, you need to make time for that person as well. You need to find a balance. Nobody wants to feel guilty for taking someone away from their kids, and I know if my G/F said how bad she felt when she left her son to go out with me, i'd feel bad too.
You need to talk with her about how your kids will always be in your life, but you also need to make some space in your life for her and give her time and make her feel important without feeling bad the kids aren't with you 24-7.
My G/F did a mix of vacations this year. Some with kids...and some with us just alone.
sounds like she wants to leave the kid out of what ever actuvity you guys are going to be doing. if it were me ide take the kid and not worry what the girl friend has to say about it. I personally involve my son with all the trips n stuff i go on.I do.t see the need to leave the kids out of vacations n stuff like that unless that is how it is planed from the get go. it is kinda hard though going off what lil text was shown. I believe wmsn4life might be spot on
I'll try to give as much backstory without making it one sided. I'm trying to see if I'm thinking this is wrong or right of me to be upset.
I have 50/50 custody with my children so I have 1 week on and then. My partner (who doesn't have kids) and I decided to go on vacation for 2 weeks. My formal spouse decided they could not watch my kids for 4 weeks bc of work and this was right at the time we were going to leave out of the country. I was thinking the best bet was to have my child come with us for the last week we were there to make it compromisable to have alone time with my partner for a week and then have my children there for the last week.
Hopefully, this doesn't sound bias and will be enough information for you guys?
"it's not my burden to take on" says it all. To her the children are a burden and she won't cooperate or understand your love and responsibilities for them.
I'll try to give as much backstory without making it one sided. I'm trying to see if I'm thinking this is wrong or right of me to be upset.
I have 50/50 custody with my children so I have 1 week on and then. My partner (who doesn't have kids) and I decided to go on vacation for 2 weeks. My formal spouse decided they could not watch my kids for 4 weeks bc of work and this was right at the time we were going to leave out of the country. I was thinking the best bet was to have my child come with us for the last week we were there to make it compromisable to have alone time with my partner for a week and then have my children there for the last week.
Hopefully, this doesn't sound bias and will be enough information for you guys?
That seems fair to me.
A little unreasonable for her to think she'd get 2 weeks alone with you when you have a 1 week on/off custody agreement. 1 week with her alone and 1 with the kids seems more than fair.....considering she's technically dating both of you.
"it's not my burden to take on" says it all. To her the children are a burden and she won't cooperate or understand your love and responsibilities for them.
Drop her. Or him? You and your children are a package deal, at 50% off. Either your partner accepts that, or not. Please don't make your children pay for adult choices though.
Last edited by Mattie; 10-07-2015 at 03:18 PM..
Reason: Too many assumptions.
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