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My 3 kids were born in the 70s and were well behaved in restaurants, people even commented on how
well behaved they were....if someone had handed me, or them, a card with rules I would not have been
offended, in fact I would have been happy that, just maybe, others would make sure patrons could enjoy
a meal without rowdy kids too.
I support it. Regardless, a private business is allowed to do whatever it wants shy of discrimination or other illegal acts. This is not illegal. If people don't like it, they won't go. Those who live in the area will decide whether or not this was a good little policy to adopt.
No one is saying that. The complaint is when these behaviors happen ALL THE TIME and are never corrected by parents even when their children are obviously disruptive to other paying customers. I've had children leave their table and come over to my table and start banging on it or talking to me. Did I invite them? NO. I've been in restaurants where kids threw themselves on the floor in a tantrum and their parents ignored them. That's a far cry from forgetting to use their "inside voice."
I have to admit, I have the kid that always wants to talk to everyone she sees. I tell her to leave the people alone and let them enjoy their meal but they always say "oh no its fine" and have a conversation with her until I drag her away. If a random kid comes up to me at a restaurant to talk to me, I say hi, talk for a moment or so and then tell them gently to go back to their table. Works fine for me. I think for things like that a little give and take is the way to go, rather than just getting annoyed by someone who is still learning social skills.
Banging on the table? That's annoying, I'll give you that. Just gently tell them no (kids often listen to 'no' a lot better when it comes from a stranger) and if that doesn't work then complain to staff, or to the parents.
I have never seen kids throwing themselves on the floor in a tantrum with their parents ignoring them in a restaurant though. Clearly I go to the wrong kind of restaurants...
It's a sad reflection on society that a restaurant has to resort to this!
Exactly. Everyone will focus on the restaurant when, in reality, this is a manifestation of the lousy parenting that permeates society now. It's not "cute" when your child misbehaves and you will be judged for it.
Exactly. Everyone will focus on the restaurant when, in reality, this is a manifestation of the lousy parenting that permeates society now. It's not "cute" when your child misbehaves and you will be judged for it.
Yes.
DH and I taught our children how to behave in public. That's a good thing.
When we go out for an enjoyable dinner, we don't care to hear bratty kids pounding on the table, screaming, and whining. And when we're at a diner, I don't want to say "hello" to your kid 25 times as s/he peers at us over the back of the booth.
I wouldn't be the slightest bit offended. My kids love to write up and post lists of rules around the house, in the car, etc, so I could totally see them using the card to keep each other in check (which in turn keeps them occupied).
They ARE talking to you when they hand YOU the card. Seriously, you don't get that ?!
The card is addressed and written to the child in order to get to me through them. No, that's not ok. Hand me a adult, non-condescending version and I am fine with it. I am not ok with the way they went about it.
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