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I'm talking every 1 to 4yrs, the kid's parent will be in a new relationship. Is there any detrimental effects it can cause to a child? I do know someone like this. The mother is a high-functional alcoholic.
Um, yeah. Even if these are all stable decent gents it would be a lack of security. Some of my peers were abused by some of their mom's boyfriends. Some sickos choose troubled single moms to get at the kids.
Also worrying about mom's illness will affect them too. (Children of alcoholic's often feel a high burden of responsibility)
But to give more specifics, we would need a whole lot more info. My guess is this is an older sibling of yours?
In that case, be there for the kid as much as you can without bad mouthing their parent. Report abuse to the proper services. But don't waste your breath on the parent. They know what they are doing and don't care to have it flashed in their face.
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But to give more specifics, we would need a whole lot more info. My guess is this is an older sibling of yours?
In that case, be there for the kid as much as you can without bad mouthing their parent. Report abuse to the proper services. But don't waste your breath on the parent. They know what they are doing and don't care to have it flashed in their face.
Just my opinion.
She's a friend. She is a wonderful mom working full-time to provide for her child. The choices in men that she chooses to be in a relationship with are terrible thinking she can fix them. Right, I'd never give my opinion how it may be affecting the child. That wouldn't fly well at all.
She's a friend. She is a wonderful mom working full-time to provide for her child. The choices in men that she chooses to be in a relationship with are terrible thinking she can fix them. Right, I'd never give my opinion how it may be affecting the child. That wouldn't fly well at all.
Well, focus on the good. Yes both the alcoholism and the men will affect the children. It's not ideal. But if she is otherwise really a great parent...count the kids pretty darn lucky.
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Well, focus on the good. Yes both the alcoholism and the men will affect the children. It's not ideal. But if she is otherwise really a great parent...count the kids pretty darn lucky.
IMHO the men are the least of your worries. Maybe if she dumps the guys her kids will learn who NOT to get involved with . Ages 1-4? They are too young to develop expectations of mom's dates. people come in and out of kid's lives constantly.
The alcoholism part? That's the big problem. Because it sets up a lifetime of bad habits. Those kids are VERY VERY Likely to become alcoholics. So who she is dating? Not so important.
I'm talking every 1 to 4yrs, the kid's parent will be in a new relationship. Is there any detrimental effects it can cause to a child? I do know someone like this. The mother is a high-functional alcoholic.
Just to clarify, do you mean that Mom had one boyfriend for four years and others for three, two or one year?
While that certainly is not as good as being married to one good man for ten years it isn't like someone bringing a new guy home to meet the kids every month or two or even every six months.
Being an alcoholic could be even worse for a child.
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IMHO the men are the least of your worries. Maybe if she dumps the guys her kids will learn who NOT to get involved with . Ages 1-4? They are too young to develop expectations of mom's dates. people come in and out of kid's lives constantly.
The alcoholism part? That's the big problem. Because it sets up a lifetime of bad habits. Those kids are VERY VERY Likely to become alcoholics. So who she is dating? Not so important.
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Originally Posted by germaine2626
Just to clarify, do you mean that Mom had one boyfriend for four years and others for three, two or one year?
While that certainly is not as good as being married to one good man for ten years it isn't like someone bringing a new guy home to meet the kids every month or two or even every six months.
Being an alcoholic could be even worse for a child.
To clarify every relationship she had with a guy since having her child, lasted between 1-4yrs. My friend is uses alcohol to deal with her problems which could also be why her relationships don't last long.
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