Need help! Kid complained by another kid's parents

[janet bubby]

I would at least get a free consultation with a lawyer, OP. This happened to a buddy of mine and the child ended up getting expelled from one of the top primary schools. What had happened was that the teacher was initially downplaying the situation and shrugging it off as no big deal, just told the parents, as it were, to have a chat with the child about keeping your hands to yourself. Well the parents of the little girl took it all the way to the school board and by the time my buddy found out, little guy was removed from the school. The games involving punches and touch had been going on for way too long by then. Sigh.

[almost3am]

Originally Posted by citidatagl

No...or not yet. But I am concerned about the possibility that the other kid's parents will do. Do I need to find a lawyer now?

I think that is unnecessary, unless something comes of it.

[convextech]

Originally Posted by SkyeBright

By six, kids should really already know the names of their genitals as well as the fact that these are private areas. They should definitely be learning or have already learned what is and isn't appropriate touching. Whether or not you keep your child from viewing sexual content (news flash, no matter how hard you try, they are still going to see some) is irrelevant. It's a danger for children to be ignorant about sex related topics (age appropriate, of course). They need to know good touch/bad touch.

Exactly. My grandkids have known about private parts and that it is a no-no to be touched down there, and to tell us if they have been, since about 3 years old and potty trained.


Your son should know better at 6 to touch anyone in the privates.

[sonderella]

Originally Posted by Mattie

I don't think so. Why not have your son write an apology note to the little girl though, as acknowledgment that he understands he was wrong to punch her (without even mentioning where the punch landed). It couldn't hurt.

I think this is good advice.

I have two girls and a boy. One of them (girl) was the aggressor in a playground incident when she was in 2nd grade. Teacher informed me, husband and I discussed with her how she should have handled the situation, told her no screen time for one week, and had her write a letter of apology to the boy. Done deal, never heard another word about it, never had another incident.

I think it's important to take seriously, and set the right tone going forward, but no need to get overly worried, either.

Address it properly now, and we won't be debating whether or not he should be charged with assault for grabbing and kissing a girl when he's 14 (that was another thread).

[Nell Plotts]

6 year olds need to be told that there are boundaries, to keep their hands to themselves - boys and girls.

[janet bubby]

Originally Posted by sonderella

I think this is good advice.

I have two girls and a boy. One of them (girl) was the aggressor in a playground incident when she was in 2nd grade. Teacher informed me, husband and I discussed with her how she should have handled the situation, told her no screen time for one week, and had her write a letter of apology to the boy. Done deal, never heard another word about it, never had another incident.

you guys are brave, I'd be afraid to acknowledge these incidents in writing.

[marie nichols]

Don't make a big issue out of it, but you do need to have a talk about body parts and what is off limits and why.

[AloePurell]

That's just not right. I know he's a kid but he needs to know better right away. If I were that girl's parents I'd be pretty PO'ed a boy would think he is entitled to another kid's body, especially a girl's.

[nobodysbusiness]

This is so sad to me.

Kids do things, including sexual play and experimentation.

I understand that it is not okay to touch others without their consent - but how does that play out with children, MOST OF WHOM PLAY DOCTOR (and if you didn't play doctor, not sure what to think).

[Mattie]

Folks, the OP was posted 5 years ago.