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Someone pointed out to me that I need to read the post properly. Well, if the man lives with her for a certain period of time he is the husband (common-law).
Someone pointed out to me that I need to read the post properly. Well, if the man lives with her for a certain period of time he is the husband (common-law).
Only ten (out of fifty) US states recognize common law marriages, and even in those states they have very strict rules as to what is and what is not considered a legal "marriage" (sometimes it is a certain number of years, like ten or twenty years, other states require legal documents filed with the court house, etc).
Just because two people are "shacking up" together that does not mean that they are "husband and wife".
OP---is just trying to keep her boyfriend, figures the van is a worthwhile tradeoff
No the van was not a worthwhile tradeoff to keep him. It was to get his son to stopped take advantage of my kindness. He tried to take over everything that I work hard to get (nice home and nice car). His dad was being a mature adult and helping paying bills. I believe that a person need to work hard to achieve the stuffs they want instead of trying to take it from someone.
Agreed. Sadly, some people aren't mature enough to be step-parents. Maybe that's why she's a girlfriend and not a wife.
I am mature enough to be a step-parent. I am not going to be an ATM bank or be taken advantage of if his son keep screwing up. I have my own bills to worry about. I would look foolish if I give up my hardworking money to a 29 year old man-child who can't pay rent or bills.
This whole family is without class, intelligence or morals.
I don't not live in a trailer. I was raised better than that from my mom to live like that. I live in a nice home. I have better class and moral than his son. I would help out with rent and buy foods if I was staying in another person's house. I wouldn't mooched and left a nasty mess without cleaning up.
Using Christmas as a way to get back at him is just wrong on so many fronts. No need to widen the rift and create more resentment. You don't have to buy a lavish gift. A gift card and a Xmas card is fine. You do it mainly because you love your husband and it's for his son, a part of him.
I didn't give him a gift card or xmas card. I have no resentment toward him. I believe that bad karma will get back to him without any revenge from me. I just feel that my boundaries had been disrespected and feel that he took advantage of my kindness. Sometimes we have enough and need to protect our right. Distance and not going around him did put the weight off my shoulder. I am at peace knowing that I can't keep helping someone out who is not respectful toward me. I will be more tough and wiser for 2016.
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