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I remember that video. I thought it was creepy as well. We have one on one time with the kids on purpose. We usually call it "mommy/buddy time" or "daddy/daughter time" but I am not opposed totally to the word "date". We have play dates, and that isn't "romantic". I think it gets weird when you put the romantic, dressing up, making it ... Date-like is weird.
A couple of years ago, a local morning radio host was talking about how his 10 or 11 year old son would take his wife on "dates" - dressed up, nice restaurant, paid for the meal... so he could learn how to treat a woman. Even stranger, they sometimes had him do the same sort of thing with some of his mother's friends.
I thought it was so odd because this host often talked about how kids grow up too fast these days yet didn't put it together that focusing on dating when kids are so young is pushing them into a realm that they would not have entered for years.
I was going to blast you for thinking one kid, one parent outings were creepy. The way this is presented is creepy and pretty useless from the future date perspective.
Kids learn from home. If you are a respectful loving couple, that don't trash talk or abuse one another kids grow up seeing that healthy relationship modeled they will NOT put up with any sort of **** when dating/living with a partner. See mommy beat on daddy or visa versa (verbally or physically, jealousy masked as "love") and things are far more clouded in children thinking this is acceptable behavior in a spouse. Creepy "date" won't override what truly goes on between mom and dad behind closed doors.
Date? That's what's creeping you out? You can make a lunch date with a friend or business associate, can't you? (I don't remember seeing the commercial.)
It's so true that a father is the example to his children of how a gentleman is supposed to treat a lady. A young lady should never allow a guy to treat her any less than how her dad treats her. And a guy should follow his dad's example. A good daddy is priceless to have in a family.
Throughout my childhood and teen years, I went on many visitation-related outings with my father. The idea of calling them dates or seeing them as in any way similar to the outings I anticipated I would take with young men when I grew up would have horrified me.
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I agree. It's weird. It's not necessary.
Parents should model good behavior and the kids will learn. Every family should treat individual members with respect, dignity, empathy, and compassion. Dating shouldn't be the end-goal. How about teaching them how to be kind, considerate, respectful humans to ALL? How about teaching them they to be okay alone?
As far as time with a parent, that should be happening in ordinary day-to-day life. Example: one child watches football game with dad every single time a game is on. Another son helps me cook dinner every night. Things like that. If these ordinary, daily interactions aren't happening that's a bigger problem.
Date nights should be reserved for the 2 adults in the family. Families are too child-centric as it is.
I just don't see the need to formally arrange something that should be happening organically.
Also, the Facebook woman with the 6 year old son had her own issues. In the post I saw, she said she was teaching him how to treat women because she had been abused by men. Wow. Lady, your 6 year old cannot help you. Talk about a burden. Jeez. I'm going to come out and say it, she should have a father-figure in that boy's life to model respectful behavior. So many other thoughts, but I'll leave it at that.
When my dad took me out one-on-one we went to places like the hardware store. (If it was a really special occasion we stopped at a used car lot and looked at cars.) Total waste of time, obviously, since I never had one guy take me to a hardware store (or a car lot) on a date.
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