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how many of you have had "the talk" with your son or daughter?[the sex talk] How old were they,how did you go about it,and how did it go? Did you do Mother/daughter, Father/son?
Hmmm...I never officially had "The Talk" with either of my kids. I just answered questions as they arose. I figured if they were old enough to ask a question, they were old enough for a straightforward answer. Most of the pertinent information was imparted to them this way between the ages of probably 6-12. I filled in whatever I thought was missing at about the age of 12, which mostly consisted of information about birth control, why it's a good idea to wait to have sex, etc. I stressed to both of them that while I didn't want them to start having sex, but if they decided it was time, that they needed to come to me and I would provide them with proper birth control, no questions asked.
Both of them did eventually come to me -- my daughter when she was 18 and my son when he was 17, so I figure I did something right.
Well, I try not to put them "on the spot" so to speak because kids tend to freak out with "lets have a talk about the birds and the bees" lol I know I did. I just "work" it into the conversation. I also told them that they could die from having sex. lmao Its true............AIDS. Nothing wrong with a little fear. HA HA.
I told mine the least of their worries these days was getting a girl pregnant.
ITA.
I've been talking to my kids about how their bodies work from day 1. Not EVERYTHING, but what parts were for, ect.
My son was five when he asked me exactly how babies get out. He did not believe me, had to go around and say "do you know what mommy told me.." before he allowed it to sink in!
We talk ALOT about making choices, using good judgement, not just about sex but about everything.
Thats the way to do it, I now have two sons who have lived all over the world met all kinds of people and are now very well adjusted. The eldest has his degree and is joining the Army as an Officer and youngest is ready to graduate High school with a really good GPA. Maybe I am just lucky I will admit there have been things I have dealt with in the wrong way but we all learn by our mistakes.
Bringing up children is the hardest thing we will ever do, how my Mum brought up 4 girls I will never know !!!
My daughter is 9 and I've answered the questions as they've come up in a straightforward way. "Where do babies come from?" "How do they get there?" "Why do some people have lots of kids and some people don't have any?" Once she asked me how people knew when to have sex and I couldn't figure out what she was asking but finally it dawned on me that she thought you had sex when you went to the hospital to have the baby. I straightened that out too.
I try to answer them with no hemming and hawing so that neither of us will be embarrassed, because when she's older I hope she'll come to me with her questions and know I won't freak out.
we've always been very open at my house, yet at the same time, teaching our kids to be respectful of their bodies and everyones privacy. We had the few off questions pop up now and then and just gave age appropriate answers. Then, when my oldest was 9, she and I were taking a car trip alone up the coast, and i just worked it into the conversation. I liked it because i knew we wouldnt get any interruptions, and it was pretty casual. Although, the downside was i had nowhere to turn when I got the giggles at some of her disgust and dismay. She's 13 now and still comes to me for most things, but she will ask her dad some. Somethign else that really worked well for us, is since she can be shy, and some things can be harder to say/ask then others, so she sometimes writes (usually me) a letter w/the basic question/thought/idea, then we go in her room and discuss it from there.
My son is due for a talk, he just turned 9.....im gonna let my husband do that one...although, id love to listen in!!! When he was little, he kept barging in to his big sisters room, his dad got frustrated one day and jsut said "Ryan! your sister is going through some changes with her body right now and needs her privacy!" and left it at that...poor kid, he kept watching her from a distance w/a fearful look on his face, worried about what his poor sister was changing into...lol
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