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A girl I work with has a friend who is going through a divorce and "they" have a DD who is 13 and weighs 220 lbs(AND high blood pressure and diabetes). DD is "slow"(not that that makes a diff, more of an FYI) and she sees the dietician regularily and is on a strict diet. But DAD has her the majority of the time and induldges her in buffets, etc. Is there anything "legally" that can be done? Would you consider this neglect or??????????? Just asking........
I wouldn't call it neglect, but bad parenting. By this I mean, parents who love too much and fail to see that their child need help. I have 55 pound, 3 year old niece, who already attends a diabetic clinic to ward off diabeties. I don't think her parents have a problem, they just don't know how to say no. Neglect is so much harder to prove.
Honestly, I doubt you can do much, but I would suspect sexual abuse myself. There are likely either medical reasons or serious psychological ones for a child being that overweight.
Does the mother approve of what hte father does? Does the mother help with dieting, exercise and other methods of weight lose and getting in better health?
If she is doing all that she can, I would have her get a doctor's written note, taken to a custody hearing, and try to get more custody so that she can monitor the daughter more.
A girl I work with has a friend who is going through a divorce and "they" have a DD who is 13 and weighs 220 lbs(AND high blood pressure and diabetes). DD is "slow"(not that that makes a diff, more of an FYI) and she sees the dietician regularily and is on a strict diet. But DAD has her the majority of the time and induldges her in buffets, etc. Is there anything "legally" that can be done? Would you consider this neglect or??????????? Just asking........
I don't have kids so take what I have to say with a grain, BUT it sounds like he is further jeopardizing her health and THAT is a problem. What does your friends attorney have to say about this? If I understand correctly, the DD has issues other than the weight/diabetes/high blood pressure so having a responsible parent that pays attention to the proper nutrition based on her needs is important since she may not be able to do it for herself (she needs a strong advocate, not a friend and indulger). Can the mother prove the father is making the DD's health worse by not following the strict diet put together by the dietician? If so, there may be legal ramifications for the father such as losing primary custody or something.
A girl I work with has a friend who is going through a divorce and "they" have a DD who is 13 and weighs 220 lbs(AND high blood pressure and diabetes). DD is "slow"(not that that makes a diff, more of an FYI) and she sees the dietician regularily and is on a strict diet. But DAD has her the majority of the time and induldges her in buffets, etc. Is there anything "legally" that can be done? Would you consider this neglect or??????????? Just asking........
I wouldn't refer to it as neglect, Softtail . . . a better term would be ABUSE!
I would definitely take that fact to the court. If the friend does not tell the court, they have no way to know shes that overweight and her dietary guidelines are not being followed.
I imagine parents feel a lot of guilt over their kids in a divorce or separation, and want to spoil them and give them treats and all, and don't want to be the 'bad
parent and say no...but in some cases the situation needs to be re-evaluated.
Thanks everyone for your replies. The girl has an attorney now and there are some newly found accusations reported by the dad's neighbors, unfortuneately not good ones. Apparently looks like there might be some sexual abuse going on Esya, you called it right off the bat. Poor girl. And no the mother does not approve of him not following the strict diet and yes, she does what she is supposed to be doing for their child. Poor, poor, girl. I will keep you all updated as I get the info.
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Esya, you called it right off the bat. Poor girl. And no the mother does not approve of him not following the strict diet and yes, she does what she is supposed to be doing for their child. Poor, poor, girl. I will keep you all updated as I get the info.
