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Old 05-24-2016, 09:35 PM
 
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My daughter who is ten years old in two weeks she will turn 11. She is playing Piano for five years. She just plays O.K. Other kids who just started to play six month ago or nine moths ago. Playing so much better.

I should not do this but when I compare my child to other child. Other child is playing so much better with passion and love. My daughter has what ever attitude.

Am I wrong on this? After five years of Piano class each week, I pay $25 for each class. She still makes basic mistake. She keeps reading letter d and b wrong. After five years she can't tell the difference between letter D and B ? same thing in Math class and English class. Her grades are around 65 to 75.

How do I tell her that she needs to change her attitude and start paying attention when teacher is teaching her something.
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Old 05-24-2016, 09:40 PM
 
Location: Brentwood, Tennessee
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She still makes basic mistake. She keeps reading letter d and b wrong. After five years she can't tell the difference between letter D and B ?
You realize that this is a common sign of dyslexia??

Have you had her evaluated for possible learning disabilities?????????
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Old 05-24-2016, 09:48 PM
 
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You realize that this is a common sign of dyslexia??

Have you had her evaluated for possible learning disabilities?????????
Yup!
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Old 05-24-2016, 09:52 PM
 
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Good lord! Get her evaluated for dyslexia (and maybe dyscalculia). This just can't be a real post. I mean, come on! Seriously!?!?!?!?!
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Old 05-24-2016, 09:59 PM
 
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I can't tell if she means the letters b and d or the NOTES b and d. If it's the notes, both look the same but are located on different parts of the musical staff. That's not dyslexia. Could be a learning disorder, but not necessarily that one. Just wanted to point that out.
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Old 05-24-2016, 10:04 PM
 
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I can't tell if she means the letters b and d or the NOTES b and d. If it's the notes, both look the same but are located on different parts of the musical staff. That's not dyslexia. Could be a learning disorder, but not necessarily that one. Just wanted to point that out.
People with visual dyslexia often do have trouble reading music. So yes, it still could be dyslexia. Also, she shared the child has the same problem in english (where I doubt they are using notes for reading) and math.
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Old 05-25-2016, 06:33 AM
 
Location: Brentwood, Tennessee
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I can't tell if she means the letters b and d or the NOTES b and d. If it's the notes, both look the same but are located on different parts of the musical staff. That's not dyslexia. Could be a learning disorder, but not necessarily that one. Just wanted to point that out.
I'm aware. Her grades indicate that she is having more problems than just "reading music."
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Old 05-25-2016, 07:07 AM
 
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Have you had her vision checked? In music b and d can easily be confused if your vision is not good. I think the same is true of English.
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Old 05-25-2016, 07:17 AM
 
Location: Raleigh, NC
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Just remember, you are the parent. It's your job to get to the bottom of why this is happening. Assuming that it is an attitude when it could be all manner of physiological or even psychological issues is not taking on your responsibilities as a parent. Start with her pediatrician and see what he/she recommends. Then go from there. It might take you some time and some testing to figure it out.
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Old 05-25-2016, 08:05 AM
 
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My daughter who is ten years old in two weeks she will turn 11. She is playing Piano for five years. She just plays O.K. Other kids who just started to play six month ago or nine moths ago. Playing so much better.

I should not do this but when I compare my child to other child. Other child is playing so much better with passion and love. My daughter has what ever attitude.

Am I wrong on this? After five years of Piano class each week, I pay $25 for each class. She still makes basic mistake. She keeps reading letter d and b wrong. After five years she can't tell the difference between letter D and B ? same thing in Math class and English class. Her grades are around 65 to 75.

How do I tell her that she needs to change her attitude and start paying attention when teacher is teaching her something.
If my child was receiving Ds and Cs on her report card I would be far more concerned about that than her piano lessons. In some school districts anything below a 70 would be considered failing but they may not be allowed to actually give an F to an elementary student. Has she always had difficulties in academics or is this something new?

Please discuss this with her teacher and others in her school such as the guidance counselor or psychologist. Has the school recommended that she receive testing to see if she has special needs? It may not be her attitude as much as her potential to learn new things.

If she has taken piano lessons for five years and she is still making basic mistakes it may mean that she is not capable or skilled enough to be successful (of course, it may mean other things, like she hates piano & wants to stop the lessons or does not practice).

Good luck.
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