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When I was a sophomore in college my mother came at me in a rage waving around a pill container she "found" in my purse. "What in the hell is this? You have no business taking birth control pills. Is that what I'm wasting my money on sending you to college?"
I let her go on and on and then calmly took it from her hand and told her it was a saccharin tablet dispenser. These few minutes changed the whole dynamic of our relationship. Yes it was 1966 and things have changed but betrayed trust is hard to recapture.
Stay out of her room if you want to maintain a good relationship with your daughter. She has a life of her own if you like it or not.
Devastated is a drama word. Bring that down to concerned, and further down yet to trusting she is old enough to take care of herself. Herpes in all forms are treatable even cold sores.
If you can trust that she would confide in you if she was actually in danger, or seriously ill, then allow her privacy for anything less.
I take Valacyclovir daily, and may have to for the rest of my life. Somehow I got an eye infection traced to one of the herpes viruses. As I've been happily married for 35 years, I'm pretty sure it didn't arrive via sexual transmission.
And I guess I am devastated because before she went off to college I gave her condoms. I've always stressed to her how important safe sex it's. Apparently she didn't listen. I know that this drug can be used to treat other things, but I really don't think that that is the case. She would have mentioned it to me if it was something innocent.
Those "Condoms" only protect from pregnancy, not skin contact. So she used the condoms, but the skin contact was the agent that they can't protect against.
Excellent! You must be a great mom because you have raised a now 19yr old kid who knows how to advocate for her own health care!
I think that "just got punched in the stomach" feeling is more because this is a medical problem within the context of being sexually active.
Not a fun subject for any parent to consider for their child (anymore than it is for kids to consider for their parents!) but she is over 18 & it's her turn to make mistakes & be resourceful enough to manage them.
It's so hard; sometimes toddlers are easier than teenagers!
Excellent! You must be a great mom because you have raised a now 19yr old kid who knows how to advocate for her own health care!
I think that "just got punched in the stomach" feeling is more because this is a medical problem within the context of being sexually active.
Not a fun subject for any parent to consider for their child (anymore than it is for kids to consider for their parents!) but she is over 18 & it's her turn to make mistakes & be resourceful enough to manage them.
It's so hard; sometimes toddlers are easier than teenagers!
Amen to that. My parents realized I was a sharp enough kid to find my own answers (I was a big reader and learned most of it that way, and did not attempt to hide my reading materials from my parents when a younger teen). My mom was a pretty keen observer and seemed satisfied I'd mostly stay out of trouble. She was right. OP's daughter might have had worse luck than I did. Oh well.
I'm not a parent, but I'm currently watching best friend's daughter make questionable choices (not quite "bad") and younger son who just completed Freshman year at WSU make what appears to be "wiser" choices. So far anyway. He can't run their lives and I watch it tear at his heart just a bit. Must happen to all parents with more than a little thoughtfulness in their veins.
I was no saint as kid, but smart and (to some extent) wise enough to keep clear of major life trouble. If it does happen, parents cope. That's just the way of it.
When a household member is on medication, its good to know ( be aware). Should there be a re-action or a reason for them to be sent to the hospital,you would be able to convey to the medical team what drugs she is currently prescribed. Nothing wrong in being informed. That is the nice thing about medical- they don't judge the person, they heal the condition.
Sorry folks, I side with the subject being broached and doing so from a concerned family member stance.
Also, consider this an opportunity to address the tidiness of the room.
If you can trust that she would confide in you if she was actually in danger, or seriously ill, then allow her privacy for anything less.
I take Valacyclovir daily, and may have to for the rest of my life. Somehow I got an eye infection traced to one of the herpes viruses. As I've been happily married for 35 years, I'm pretty sure it didn't arrive via sexual transmission.
My first boyfriend had herpes virus in the eyes from a young age and was almost 100% blind. I'm happy there is a medication that hopefully spare you that.
Meanwhile, I'm thinking that would be a DEFINITE "rule in" for a parent to know about.
Also used to treat cold sores. If it was something that innocent, why would she mention it at all???
Which is herpes.
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