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The way I read your story, OP, is that you devoted an entire hour to the daughter: 45 mins. of waiting, 15 mins. of chat. How could the mother expect anything more?
Also, I picked up on the fact that the mom was scheduling the daughter without much participation from the daughter, and informing her of the appointment as a fait accomplis, rather than collaborating closely with her, so that the mom made a poor choice for the meeting time. She could have picked a different day, trying to find something that was convenient to both of you, but she didn't. One gets the impression she thought the meeting was absolutely urgent, and shoehorned it into your and her daughter's schedule, even though that wasn't necessary. Her bad. Too bad she didn't learn her lesson. If you get any flack from your sister, you can point out that you spent a total of one hour on that little project, which was about 40 minutes too long.
Last edited by Ruth4Truth; 07-19-2016 at 01:30 PM..
Be cautious about reading too much into her hanging up. We never know exactly what people are thinking when they cut off communication. I'd like to think she dropped the call like that so she could yell at the kid for wasting your time, but we'll probably never know.
Also, how did Mom know you hadn't devoted much time unless the kid said something to that effect?
Good golly. That's horrible. Thanks for the reminder.
I remember my dad helping me get my first job. He taught me how to write a resume, made me write one, and proofread it a dozen times (making me go back and redo it each time). He had mom take me out shopping to get a suit. He paid for fancy paper for my resume. He escorted me to my first job fair. Went up to the first hiring manager, chatted with her for 5 minutes (with me watching so I could see how), and then introduced me.
At that point he stepped back and let go. Has never done another thing job wise for me ever, except for offer advice if I ask. I've been gainfully employed since that time.
Does she even want a job? Does she NEED a job? Does MOM need her to have a job?
Unless you are a child, or have a spouse who has agreed to support you while you raise the kids, or are disabled, everyone should NEED a job. If you eat, you should be earning the money to buy that food.
Whether she WANTS a job is irrelevant. If you want to eat, get a job.
I see so many young people who are totally lacking in the ability to do things on their own and hearing the words, "I'm bored". Far too much of using technology as a baby-sitter-dismounting soapbox now lest I get slam-dunked by those who choose to do so. Punctuality is a must!!!! Start them young.
Unless you are a child, or have a spouse who has agreed to support you while you raise the kids, or are disabled, everyone should NEED a job. If you eat, you should be earning the money to buy that food.
Whether she WANTS a job is irrelevant. If you want to eat, get a job.
Need is an interesting word. Everyone interprets it differently. She may not starve to death without one. But Mom is not doing her any favors with her current attitude.
I have to wonder if this mother ever had a job outside the home. Her attitudes and actions toward both you and her daughter indicates a lack of any familiarity with professional behavior.
Oh, what drek.
My mother would have tanned my hide for being so rude and blowing a mentorship opportunity.
What you see here from the mother is what spilled over into the daughter''s entitled, unprofessional, and rude Behavior.
Then again, I've been finding my own work since I was 11 years old and ordered the Olympia door to door sales stuff in the back of a comic book so I could earn my own telephone and boom box (I'm 40 now).
My parents also thought it was my responsibility to take care of my grades and get whatever recommendations I needed from all the appropriate people. Even in middle school and high school. I do agree that parents are way too helicopter in this day and age.
Parents' contacts can open a door. I don't think that's coddling. I think that's the fortunate networking opportunity that some people just have. But parents can only open the door. The kids have to walk in and do the hard work.
[quote=Remington Steel;44809352][quote=elyn02;44807802]Hmmm...so you tell us to quit making our children's lives easy but you attempted to do it for the children of people you kind of know.
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Well she gave her the benefit of the doubt considering this was the first encounter. Nothing wrong with that.
I get that and the OP is nice for doing that. I think those people are lucky to have a connection to the OP, who I believe is male, because he seems to have a good, strong character on these boards. However, to say that people are crippling their kids by making their lives easy because the OP chose to lower his standards for a young person one day is a bit of a stretch.
My mother would have tanned my hide for being so rude and blowing a mentorship opportunity.
What you see here from the mother is what spilled over into the daughter''s entitled, unprofessional, and rude Behavior.
Then again, I've been finding my own work since I was 11 years old and ordered the Olympia door to door sales stuff in the back of a comic book so I could earn my own telephone and boom box (I'm 40 now).
My parents also thought it was my responsibility to take care of my grades and get whatever recommendations I needed from all the appropriate people. Even in middle school and high school. I do agree that parents are way too helicopter in this day and age.
Parents' contacts can open a door. I don't think that's coddling. I think that's the fortunate networking opportunity that some people just have. But parents can only open the door. The kids have to walk in and do the hard work.
Sorry. I still think the mother was an oaf in getting upset that the OP only spent 15 minutes with the daughter who was 45 minutes late. The blame lies with her daughter only, who appears to be an equal oaf.
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