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I raised 3 sons. I taught them to clean their own bathroom from very early on. If they could sprinkle, they could clean. .
Bless you for that. I've encountered too many adult men who seem to have no concept of not peeing or splashing or dribbling everywhere. (Or if they do, that it's their responsibility and theirs alone to clean it up.)
I have three kids- 2 boys and a girl. They all do equal chores and the chores rotate. Laundry, cleaning kitchen, bathroom, etc. They are all very capable, although the daughter complains bitterly about most of it. They've been doing these chores from early on. When I was a girl, I detested the household jobs and much preferred the jobs like mowing the lawn and taking care of outdoor maintenance. One of my brothers tended to prefer indoor jobs.
I can't imagine treating my kids in such a way that I'd be limiting the capabilities of one by not giving equal opportunity to do a variety of chores.
My brother was only required to mow the lawn once a month during the seasons the grass actually grew. From October - April he didn't have to do even that. My sister and I were stuck doing the dishes every night all year long. I didn't think it was fair then, and still don't.
Chores shouldn't be divided into man/woman work, but my parents obviously didn't agree.
My brother was only required to mow the lawn once a month during the seasons the grass actually grew. From October - April he didn't have to do even that. My sister and I were stuck doing the dishes every night all year long. I didn't think it was fair then, and still don't.
Chores shouldn't be divided into man/woman work, but my parents obviously didn't agree.
Unfortunately many "male" chores fall into the sporadic/infrequent category like mowing, shoveling snow, changing or getting the oil changed, etc. The exception is the 60 seconds each week to take out the trash! Most "female" chores are the never ending type - dishes, laundry, picking up, cleaning up, cooking...
So it's preferable to have a child who virtually never sees his dad? You keep saying you would never teach your son to (whatever chore you deem too feminine). It seems to me, in the scenario you give, you wouldn't, in fact, be teaching your son anything. You wouldn't be around to do so. He'd need to look to other men to be his role models and to discuss his questions about life with. You know, one who's around. Or maybe even a woman.
It is pretty well documented that children with uninvolved/absent parents suffer.
Well, which is better, not seeing his father or not seeing either parent because both are working?
In response to the bolded, I said no such thing. In fact, I said just the opposite. I think it's a good idea for everyone to be well-rounded. I teach my son to do everything; laundry, dishes, cooking, sewing, etc. What I'll also teach my son, as I said, is not to be manipulated by some woman or decades of feminist dogma which declares it's perfectly acceptable for him to work all day/week to support his wife but somehow unreasonable to then ask her to make him a sandwich or keep the bathroom clean.
Look, you've been fairly reasonable and I appreciate that. I would love to continue this conversation, but literally half of my posts have been deleted, and it's pretty obvious why. Since I'm not going to be allowed to share my opinion, I'm no longer going to participate in this thread.
I give my daughters more than my son because one day they will be wives and mothers and need to know how to do those things.
But don't boys need to know how to do "those things"?
What if the time comes for your son to do those things for himself and his mother is no longer doing those things for him, he doesn't have a wife to do those things for him, or his wife doesn't want to do those things for him?
But don't boys need to know how to do "those things"?
What if the time comes for your son to do those things for himself and his mother is no longer doing those things for him, he doesn't have a wife to do those things for him, or his wife doesn't want to do those things for him?
exactly^^^^^ we are not doing our sons any favors by not giving them household chores because "some girl will always be around to do it".
My husband was a little prince who had no household responsibilities growing up and he didn't even have any sisters. His mother was the martyr type who did it all herself. And his first wife continued spoiling him.
Things changed when I came into the picture.
He's an electrical engineer, member of mensa with 3 college degrees but turns into a drooling idiot when he enters the kitchen! The man even screwed up a box of mac and cheese! So I do all the cooking (with the help of our two 14-year-old girls). He can wash dishes, clean toilets, vacuum, and dust, etc. He laments that he was always run out of the kitchen "so the women folk could prepare the food". Everybody should be able to feed themselves and others from time to time, mend and launder clothes, change a tire, change oil, make a budget, keep a checking account balanced. and change diapers.
BTW I was in charge of lawn maintenance for the first 35 years of our marriage. I love mowing the grass, clipping shrubs, weeding the garden, etc. I once was given a rototiller for a birthday present and I was thrilled to death. Since DH worked so much during the week and had little interaction with the kids, on the weekends I was happy to have time outside mowing, weeding, etc and he stayed inside to bond with the kids. it worked for us. When they were old enough to join us, outside chores became a family affair.
But don't boys need to know how to do "those things"?
What if the time comes for your son to do those things for himself and his mother is no longer doing those things for him, he doesn't have a wife to do those things for him, or his wife doesn't want to do those things for him?
He wont marry a woman who wont do those things for him.
and to the person ( probably you) who sent me a comment asking if its 1950s...im allowed to believe, live and teach the way that works for us and i wasnt asking for your thought on the matter.
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I've encountered too many adult men who seem to have no concept of not peeing or splashing or dribbling everywhere. (Or if they do, that it's their responsibility and theirs alone to clean it up.)
