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Then I guess 95% of the college population are true alchoholics and need to go to AA...
It is a phase...she will get over it...
would you say the same about shooting heroin? or compulsive gambling? or nicotine addiction? "it is a phase, she will get over it" ?? talk to the people who are around the person too, their friends, family, for their take on the problem. Problem drinking is "not a phase" though the denial of the problem and it's serioiusness to both the person and their loved ones is part of the chaos.
The issue I think here is that you keep defining the OP's daughter as being a "problem drinker." However, that label is not necessarily accurate and certainly not able to be derived from the OP.
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would you say the same about shooting heroin? or compulsive gambling? or nicotine addiction? "it is a phase, she will get over it" ?? talk to the people who are around the person too, their friends, family, for their take on the problem. Problem drinking is "not a phase" though the denial of the problem and it's serioiusness to both the person and their loved ones is part of the chaos.
Ok. This is a girl who's got a head on her shoulders. It seems as though you have done a good job with her, you've counselled her about your opinions on overdrinking, and now you must let her find her way.
I remember at that age getting drunk more than a few times, but then quickly figured out that moderation was a better way to go.
As a mother, I would be vigilent until I was sure she is not prone to alcoholism, and if she is, then that's another story.
The OP's daughter sounds similar to me when I was her age. I didnt know the name of it then, but now they call it a "binge" drinker. I could go months without drinking.But when i did drink, lookout brother! i would drink til they through me out! Now i just stay out of bars and just have a few cold beers watching the game on TV.
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Ok. This is a girl who's got a head on her shoulders. It seems as though you have done a good job with her, you've counselled her about your opinions on overdrinking, and now you must let her find her way.
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As someone who is reasonably close to your daughters age bracket, I would say that what she is doing sounds just like about everyone I know that has an active social life.
Let it be, she is grown, and independant. She is just cutting loose a bit, let her have some fun.
I see this is an old post that's been bumped back up.
To the OP, how is your daughter now?
Drinking - when we are teens, drinking is such a big thing. We live for the day we're 21 and can legally taste it. Some of us go overboard, some eventually stop, others don't.
I look back now and wonder where parts of my life are. No clue, I don't remember a lot of it.
The hang over, oh how I don't miss that.
Your daughter sounds successful.
As long as she's not driving or hurting anyone, I wouldn't make a big thing of it.
hopefully the appeal will wear off.
It is so hard to watch a loved one take a dangerous path. Drinking to excess leaves a young girl open to harm.
Make sure you point out the stories in the papers about the young girls leaving bars that are never seen from again. There have been a few in NYC very recently.
Also that she never leaves her drink unattended & available for someone to put the rape drug in.
& how important it is to always have a friend with you-to have her back.
Drinking to excess pulls down your personal barriers & opens you up to harmful situations.
I could be wrong about this, but I think most people who turn into alcoholics have a hereditary tendency to that.
I would suggest this. Don't try to browbeat her about it, but suggest this as an alternative. Tell her to drink responsibly as much as she enjoys drinking, keep track of her opportunities or inclinations to drink. But one opportunity out of three, refuse. Just say no. Then she can drink a couple of more times, and then she has to use restraint again. Explain that if she gets to the point where she can't do that, the desire is just too strong, then she will know herself that she is in serious trouble and needs help. Tell her she is responsible for her own life, but your advice is to make sure she can always restrain herself if she needs t, and keep proving that to herself.
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