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This does not prove there is a direct correlation because it does not say what else went on in the person's life who was spanked or hard or how often and with what they were spanked. Maybe these people were hanging out with bad people, maybe they had bad parents maybe they had mental issues. Maybe even if they were not spanked they would still end up in prison many times it is more then one thing that leads people to go to prison.
Last edited by Storm Eagle; 07-17-2018 at 10:50 AM..
I think that many forms of corporal punishment for disciplining kids are abusive, wrong, and just don't accomplish the correct result. The only exception I believe in is very, very limited. When they are little toddlers, they have the ability to run but not yet the ability to really engage in much discussion about anything, sometimes getting through to them with time outs or other methods is just pointless. This peaks around age 3, I believe. My kids, adorable and adored as they were, they were little savages at age 3 if left to their own devices. If my child is going to put himself in danger because he's giggling and running into the street, and does not care if I put him in time out, and the only way to establish that I AM the adult here and you DO have to listen, is a swat with my hand on his backside, well that's what I was going to do.
We are talking about a startling swat on a diapered butt. Mostly to demand attention. Which very quickly transitions to "Do you need a spanking?" and then away from anything physical by the time they are like 5 or so. Once they're old enough to reason with, systems of rewards and redirection and revoking privileges worked better anyways.
I have found that people who hit kids with belts or other objects, are not flexible enough in their thinking to believe that there is any other way to discipline a kid's behavior, so as the kid gets older and that swat isn't effective anymore, they escalate the violence to more impactful (and abusive) measures. I recall how it felt the last time I got a serious spanking from my father when I was like...6 or 7 or something... I don't remember what I did. I do remember sobbing in my room, absolutely convinced that no one loved me. I don't think that was the lesson he was trying to teach, but it's the one I learned at the time and it's probably encoded some issues I've struggled with my whole life. So I definitely do not recommend beating on one's child until they cry as a means to try and teach them anything. At best it only teaches them to blindly obey whatever scares them and only respect threats and force. Rather than doing good in life because it's right, they only do good to avoid punishment. Not necessarily the best mindset to have.
Do you spank your own children? If so, that is violent.
even thinking its ok is violent and worrying.. think about it.. you hit a child.. a defenceless human being.. and they think its ok... in the name of discipline... thats not sorting out a problem, its only making it worse and that child hating you forever.. Some parents are just too lazy or ignorant to sit and talk it through or at least try and fix the problem.... taking about phones , computers and friends are a better deterrent than hitting..........you go to prison for slapping an adult in the street but some of these parents use belts , whips etc on their own children..diabolical madness. how do they sleep at night. happy in their inflicted torture on a child..
This does not prove there is a direct correlation because it does not say what else went on in the person's life who was spanked or hard or how often and with what they were spanked. Maybe these people were hanging out with bad people, maybe they had bad parents maybe they had mental issues. Maybe even if they were not spanked they would still end up in prison many times it is more then one thing that leads people to go to prison.
Not that spanking is ever right but using an implement to hit takes it to another level, its not spanking in my books. its sadistic pleasure.
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