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She buys them clothing, food and provides them with housing. Exactly how is that not supporting them financially? Why does the fact that she stays home because of her autistic child, goes to all his ARD meetings, gets him evaluated for his therapies, etc. mean she is not supporting him. Why does the fact that she doesn't work a job mean she is not supporting him when she has inherited wealth? That is still her money that she is using to support them.
Once again, if you are married and your wife stays at home to take care of the kids is she not supporting them? The finances are different, but she is still supporting them.
Of course financial support is important. How does a good custodial parent not financially support their child? I don't know anyone that receives enough money in child support to pay all of the household and personal bills.
The custodial parent also emotionally supports the child - day in and day out. That is not true of the non custodial parent that sees the child 4 or 5 days a month.
Maybe you have an ex that refuses to work outside of the home and that has you bitter?
A good parent will do what is best for the child - period. That means paying child support, being there physically and emotionally for your child and looking out for your child's best interest.
If financial support is important why doesn't the court require custodial parents to financially support their kids?
What did I say that was untrue? My son has full custody of his son. The judge initially gave him shared custody but his ex was irresponsible and my son was diligent about keeping records of her 'lifestyle'. He went back to court and got full custody. He proved that she didn't have a verifiable address, and he looked at public court records and found that she had been cited for driving without a license and for the kid riding in the front seat with no car seat or seat belt.
If a custodial parent violates a custody order you go back to court and file a contempt charge, you can find the form and instructions on line. You can do a contempt filing yourself, or hire a paralegal it does not cost "big money" Keep records of visitation! Have the exchange take place through a third party who can verify any occasions where the custodial parent is late or doesn't show up when you establish a pattern of the custodial parent not allowing you to see the child you have a good chance that the judge will find that the custodial parent is attempting to alienate the child from you and in most states that is cause for the court to grant you full custody.
It's very unusual for a non custodial parent to pay 50% of their net income in support. If the children are in school it's easy to get the judge to impute income for the custodial parent and adjust child support based on that, there is a presumption that a parent with school age children can work and their income will serve to reduce your support obligation.
Moderator cut: delete I have personally witnessed over 100 contempt hearings and filed 25 of my own. To characterize this process as easy or realistic is inaccurate.
Last edited by Miss Blue; 02-04-2017 at 04:58 PM..
Reason: personal attack
I just gave you the numbers and you conveniently ignored them. I'll ask you again: does your ex make $4.80/hr?
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Again- non custodial parent doesn't pay 50% of their check, drivers license suspended and jail.
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... non custodial parent hires attorney for $350/hr to file motion for contempt, they go to court months later, then at best the Judge tells the custodial parent to comply with the order.
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I said they were claiming a falsehood, and they were. It had nothing to do with their personal situation.
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At minimum the cs order will be based on imputed income (peak earning capacity). A good earner is looking at 2k-2500/mo plus
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The guideline child support for a minimum wage worker in every state is more money than you claim to be receiving.
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It is very disheartening to see someone like you be so committed to sharing information with others that is totally untrue and false.
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Last edited by MoonBeam33; 02-04-2017 at 02:14 PM..
Reason: I decided to quote some more LIES for good measure.
Perhaps the non custodial parent would love to see the kid more than a few days a month but is not allowed to. You can't fault a person for not being there to emotionally support a child when they have no legal way to do so. You've actually stumbled on to one of the main reasons that 50/50 custody should be considered the norm whenever possible.
I don't know where you live but in NC 'joint custody' is the norm. Unless, there is abuse of some sort.
Why would a parent not be allowed to see their child? Can you give me some examples? Are you saying that the custodial parent says you can't see the child and so the non-custodial parent just goes along with that? Why?
Most of the custodial parents that I know go to every extreme to be sure their kids get to see the non-custodial parent.
When I was a single mother, I needed the every other weekend to recover from how hard it is. If the father is a good guy, who in their right mind wouldn't want to have a little break from the kids?
First of all your son was very, very lucky that she did all of these stupid things.
But just so you know, the police would not arrest her if she kept the children from your son. If she did so and continued to do so your son would be in the exact same position that thousands of men all around the country find themselves in- barred from their children's lives with no remedy.
I think it really depends on where you live. Yes my son was lucky, he has his daughter every weekend, half of Christmas break, all of spring break week and every other week during the summer. Ironically, the mother, who just had her 3rd baby with the 3rd baby daddy lost custody the last time the 2nd baby daddy got arrested. She is still only allowed visitation with no overnight visits with my granddaughter and her 2nd child who was born addicted to drugs and spent a month in the hospital when he was born. She is a real piece of work. She tried so hard to keep my son from spending time with his daughter and now she's not allowed to see her except for a few hours once a week. Karma for sure.
Why would a parent not be allowed to see their child? Can you give me some examples? Are you saying that the custodial parent says you can't see the child and so the non-custodial parent just goes along with that? Why?
Edit: I made a response but then I realized none of what I said offered anything new to the conversation and I could already anticipate all of your responses, which have also already been written and responded to pages ago. This thread seems to have run its course.
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