Welcome to City-Data.com Forum!
U.S. CitiesCity-Data Forum Index
Go Back   City-Data Forum > General Forums > Parenting
 [Register]
Please register to participate in our discussions with 2 million other members - it's free and quick! Some forums can only be seen by registered members. After you create your account, you'll be able to customize options and access all our 15,000 new posts/day with fewer ads.
View detailed profile (Advanced) or search
site with Google Custom Search

Search Forums  (Advanced)
 
Old 02-01-2017, 12:44 PM
 
Location: SoCal again
20,683 posts, read 19,801,819 times
Reputation: 42926

Advertisements

Even if it would be/is legal, it is sick. I am 40 and would never do that.

 
Old 02-01-2017, 01:04 PM
 
Location: Saint John, IN
11,583 posts, read 6,668,285 times
Reputation: 14786
Quote:
Originally Posted by pghquest View Post
The OP can file a "trespass warning", which would stop all contact legally, but that seems a little aggressive given the lack of knowing what is being discussed.
Not aggressive enough IMO! Who cares what's being discussed? She's 40 & he's 16, it's not appropriate and there's NO way they have anything in common!
 
Old 02-01-2017, 01:13 PM
 
1,478 posts, read 1,498,563 times
Reputation: 3411
I'm so incredibly shocked at how many of you just don't think that this is a big deal because we're talking about a male child and an adult female. I genuinely can't believe that you would not have already called the cops on a 40 year old man who was manipulating a 16 year old girl into sneaking around behind her parents back.
 
Old 02-01-2017, 01:33 PM
 
Location: Living on the Coast in Oxnard CA
16,289 posts, read 32,195,087 times
Reputation: 21885
Quote:
Originally Posted by ncole1 View Post
Won't work if the age of consent is 16 in OP's state.
Who cares what the age of consent is. The 16 year old is a kid and living in his parents home. If he would like to make his own rules then he can see how it is living on his own.
 
Old 02-01-2017, 01:39 PM
 
Location: Living on the Coast in Oxnard CA
16,289 posts, read 32,195,087 times
Reputation: 21885
Quote:
Originally Posted by pghquest View Post
I have no issue with the parent being involved, my issue is calling the police when you have no idea what they are even discussing, acting like she's some pedophile for simply enjoying playing video games..

I said clearly, trust, but verify, in my first response.. I've got some 18 year old, "talking" to my 14 year old daughter.. if you dont think I guard and watch that relationship, even discussions, you're kidding yourself..

but jumping to the conclusion that they are having inappropriate discussions is simply wrong..
So exactly what do you think a 40 year old woman and a 16 year old kid would be talking about then?
 
Old 02-01-2017, 01:46 PM
 
Location: Living on the Coast in Oxnard CA
16,289 posts, read 32,195,087 times
Reputation: 21885
Anytime a kid at any age has to go behind a parents back to have a conversation then something is not right. Anything that a kid is saying to a friend better be something that can be said in front of the parents. No need to hide. Any 40 year adult should be able to understand this. An adult of any age that is having a conversation with a 16 year old or any other age kid that is concealed from the parents of that kid is doing something wrong and knows it.

This is grooming 101.
 
Old 02-01-2017, 01:48 PM
 
Location: california
7,287 posts, read 6,860,343 times
Reputation: 9198
Reminds me of the movie " Must love dogs"
 
Old 02-01-2017, 02:25 PM
 
Location: Foot of the Rockies
90,316 posts, read 120,179,658 times
Reputation: 35920
Quote:
Originally Posted by SOON2BNSURPRISE View Post
Anytime a kid at any age has to go behind a parents back to have a conversation then something is not right. Anything that a kid is saying to a friend better be something that can be said in front of the parents. No need to hide. Any 40 year adult should be able to understand this. An adult of any age that is having a conversation with a 16 year old or any other age kid that is concealed from the parents of that kid is doing something wrong and knows it.

This is grooming 101.
Oh, c'mon! I don't think much of this relationship, especially with the secrecy. However, the bold is over the top. We all have a right to have private conversations.
 
Old 02-01-2017, 02:53 PM
 
Location: Saint John, IN
11,583 posts, read 6,668,285 times
Reputation: 14786
Quote:
Originally Posted by Katarina Witt View Post
Oh, c'mon! I don't think much of this relationship, especially with the secrecy. However, the bold is over the top. We all have a right to have private conversations.
Not between a 16 and a 40 year old! There's no reason why a 40 year old should be having long conversations with a 16 year old! NONE!
 
Old 02-01-2017, 03:05 PM
 
Location: Southern California
12,713 posts, read 15,400,683 times
Reputation: 35511
Quote:
Originally Posted by CGab View Post
Not between a 16 and a 40 year old! There's no reason why a 40 year old should be having long conversations with a 16 year old! NONE!
Especially since they met while playing a video game online. It would still be weird if it was a friends mom or something with that age difference and the amount of time and hour of the day, but it being a random is even worse!
Please register to post and access all features of our very popular forum. It is free and quick. Over $68,000 in prizes has already been given out to active posters on our forum. Additional giveaways are planned.

Detailed information about all U.S. cities, counties, and zip codes on our site: City-data.com.


Closed Thread


Over $104,000 in prizes was already given out to active posters on our forum and additional giveaways are planned!

Go Back   City-Data Forum > General Forums > Parenting

All times are GMT -6.

© 2005-2024, Advameg, Inc. · Please obey Forum Rules · Terms of Use and Privacy Policy · Bug Bounty

City-Data.com - Contact Us - Archive 1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9, 10, 11, 12, 13, 14, 15, 16, 17, 18, 19, 20, 21, 22, 23, 24, 25, 26, 27, 28, 29, 30, 31, 32, 33, 34, 35, 36, 37 - Top