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In the news is George Clooney who turns 56 in a few months is having twins (his first kids) with his wife Amal Clooney who just turned 39. What do you think of this? As someone who is 42 and thought I was way too old to have kids now it gives me some hope that more men are now waiting. I would like to wait a couple more years to have kids but have always got the looks of disdain as people say "oh my that is so old to have kids!!!"
Risk of birth defects goes up after 40 for men, so IDK, 56 is too old in my book, but it's much better than some of the rock stars having kids in their late 60's and 70's.
My husband had just turned 43 when our oldest was born, and will be two months shy of 45 when our second is born. He was 40 when we started dating, 41 when we got married. Neither of us had ever been married before, and no kids. You marry later, you have kids later (if having kids is a want). We talked extensively about kids prior to marrying, and were decided that if we couldn't naturally conceive, we would foster and adopt. We were able to conceive without difficulty, ultimately.
My husband's dad was 24 when his older sister was born, 27 when he was born, and 53 when his younger sister was born.
In the news is George Clooney who turns 56 in a few months is having twins (his first kids) with his wife Amal Clooney who just turned 39. What do you think of this? As someone who is 42 and thought I was way too old to have kids now it gives me some hope that more men are now waiting. I would like to wait a couple more years to have kids but have always got the looks of disdain as people say "oh my that is so old to have kids!!!"
So, is men having kids in their late 40s and mid 50s becoming more mainstream now?
Just because celebrities are doing it doesn't mean that it makes sense for the average person. Kids require time, money, and energy. George and Amal obviously have enough money for anything and they can hire help if they need it.
My third child was born when I was 37. Not that old.
Meanwhile, my older brother was still living the Hollywood lifestyle, playing golf in Palm Springs, jetting off somewhere with some stars, you name it.
So about twelve years ago one Saturday, my brother called me.
"Hey, I'm driving down the 105, heading to the beach. Whatcha doing?"
"Oh, we're about to go car shopping."
"Oh, cool. Whatcha going to get?"
"A minivan."
Long pause.
"Well...um...that's cool."
"No it's not."
About six years ago, my brother adopted a newborn son at the ripe old age of 52. About two years ago, they arrived in town for Thanksgiving. While his child buzzed around my house like a tsetse fly, he finally stopped the conversation, looked at me and said, "How did you do this with three kids? I'm...tired all the time."
So, OP, get it taken care of now. Or be like my brother, who'll be raising an 18-year-old when he's 70.
This is key, and was actually a big reason for us for waiting.
Both of us actually have more time, and definitely more money, than when we were in our twenties and early thirties.
My husband probably has less energy, but I actually have more energy than I did from about age 22 to 36, because I'm no longer having to work zillions of hours a week. That was family unfriendly.
My father-in-law also notes that he's able to be a much more present figure for his youngest daughter, who was born when he was in his fifties, than he was for my husband and my husband's older sister. Because he has been retired most of his youngest child's life, he's been able to be involved in all her activities, whereas his older two didn't have that, due to his work schedule. There are tradeoffs. He and my SIL are close in a completely different way, because he's been around, as a retiree.
In the news is George Clooney who turns 56 in a few months is having twins (his first kids) with his wife Amal Clooney who just turned 39. What do you think of this?
Good for them.
My husband was "only" 36 when our first (together) was born. He would be 39+ if we were going to have another. He is still plenty young, as he says.
I think sometimes people don't always think about what's best for the child in the long run. I think sometimes people just "feel" like they want something and tend to do what makes them "feel" good without thinking things through. People in their mid 50's having kids probably isn't the most ideal situation for the kids. I know that there are pro's and con's but IDK, granted people like George Clooney having a lot of money have a leg up because they can get extra help easily. I'm too lazy to look up the stats, but I do know that there are issues for men in terms of birth defects as they age. That may or may not be factor, again no stats in front of me. I just can't help but wonder how much of this is an ego stroking deal for men when they are much older than normal, especially the celebrity crowd. IDK, maybe I'm wrong here, who knows.
I have a female friend who is 59, currently raising her 8 year old twins and her 11 year old, all very lively and bright boys, alone. She is doing ok (and the kids are doing great - she homeschools them all) but the aches and pains she gets from having to feed the cows, cats, a horse or two, parrots, umpteen dogs and chickens are a bit much some days. Those feed bags are heavy and it is a long way from the parking spot to the barn, especially after a heavy rain.
Clooney can afford to have someone else look after his kids if he wants to. And there are no monetary worries for that couple I would think. I would worry a bit about George though .. that he may not actually be old and mature enough to be a father yet.
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