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if it was me as the parent , yes, it still might "happen"
Not in my house, however !
Get real, they live together how are you going to stop it. It's not like you can forbid them to be in their own home alone. You can express your displeasure, threaten them, absolutely forbid it but if they want to they are going to. My husband and I were strict parents no guests of the opposite sex when we weren't home, no opposite sex in their bedrooms, no dating until 16, no coed overnight trips etc. None of those rules can be applied in this situation unless parents are willing to split up and maintain separate residences. This is an entirely different situation then most of us will ever face.
OP, what upsets you most? That teenagers are (possibly) having sex in your home? Or that they are step-siblings?
I feel like when you have two teenagers not biologically related and recently started spending a lot of time together, that it shouldn't come as a surprise that feelings may develop. Since they are not biologically related nor even view one another as brother/sister (it's not as if they grew up together from early childhood), I wouldn't make them feel like their relationship is incestuous.
You can forbid them from having sex, but I wouldn't be surprised if they continued doing it. Even if you remove the doors to their rooms, they will sometimes be alone in the house. They are teenagers with raging hormones, after all.
It's going to get complicated because you all live in the same house as a family. It's going to be difficult to make them stay apart. You and your husband need to set them down and have a mature, rational,honest discussion with them.
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Get real, they live together how are you going to stop it. It's not like you can forbid them to be in their own home alone. You can express your displeasure, threaten them, absolutely forbid it but if they want to they are going to. My husband and I were strict parents no guests of the opposite sex when we weren't home, no opposite sex in their bedrooms, no dating until 16, no coed overnight trips etc. None of those rules can be applied in this situation unless parents are willing to split up and maintain separate residences. This is an entirely different situation then most of us will ever face.
...."how are you going to stop it"......
you start with a simple rule that neither are allowed in the other's bedroom.
Seeing the boy walking out of his step sisters bedroom at 5:am and saying nothing except asking internet posters what to do is certainly not what I would do.
I don't know if anyone in this long thread has mentioned this, so forgive me if I am repeating what others have already said.
I would seek some counseling with a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist ASAP, both individually and as a family group, to discuss your concerns and suspicions, and how to approach this situation. This is way too big of a family issue to be solved by strangers on the internet.
Your family doctor should be able to give you a referral to someone. Failing that, call your insurance company and ask for a referral. Don't put off scheduling that first appointment, even if it is only for you.
kids having sex in the parents home shows a complete lack of respect as well.
Come on, really? Considering the average 18-25 year old lives with their parents (to my knowledge), they're supposed to get a hotel every time they want to have sex with their partner?
Forcing two unrelated hormonal teenagers to live together & you are surprised they may be having sex? You could talk to them, but I expect they would both be mortified, you could lay down the law & forbid them to have sex, but that's not going to work as they will just do it elsewhere or when you are out. And I can't believe some suggest removing thei r bedroom doors! Why not just lock them in their rooms & put metal bars in their windows
At the end of the day they are not related, don't see each other as brother & sister, so the only thing they are technically doing "wrong" is having sex in your house, that's if you have ever actually told them they are not to have sex with anyone under your roof. Just leave lots of condoms in their bedrooms so at least you know they are being safe...
My partners sister has just had a baby with their step brother. They were not raised together & only met a few years ago & both in their 30's. The families thought it was a bit weird at first, but they are not related so no one is really bothered by it now.
Thread is closed as it is beginning to wind down with off topic and other undesirable posts
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