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Just try putting some LEGOS on the floor at night outside her room and just wait you will hear a scream when whoever is in the hallway is up. Another option would be some match box or hot wheels too mixed in with the LEGOS. Or you can set up an infa-red camera just to cover the hallway. You might want to send the son to boarding school. A direct confrontation will not end well. You could try talking to the daughter seperately? You can seek a psychologist's help. Technically since they are not blood relatives it is not incest. Weird though, tough situation.
I know a stepsister and stepbrother who got married, had 3 kids and still married 25+ years later. Their parents didn't marry until he was 19 and she was 20. They never lived together as brother and sister, they were both away at college when the parents met.
The OP AND her husband need to have 'the talk' with both kids. I did that with both mine, son and daughter. Before they do that, they need to reach agreement as to what the boundaries are going to be. Everyone will have a different perspective on the boundaries and those will necessarily change as the children get older. There is no silver bullet here. The parents will - or should - know their children well enough to know how to pitch the conversation.
The problem for the OP and her husband is that these kids are not siblings and not related. Neither did they grow up together with all the natural boundaries that involves. They are two unrelated young people thrown together by circumstances and 'the talk' needs to take that into account.
'The talk' does not have to be accusatory neither does it have to be prohibitive depending on what the boundaries are. With my kids, I focused on safe sex and avoiding pregnancy on the assumption that if they wanted to have sex they probably would no matter what I said. However, and to the best of my knowledge, they both had enough respect for me and my wife (not their mother) not to have sex in our house when they were still dependent minors.
Nevertheless, when mine were both at college, they would come home with their boyfriends/girlfriends and they would sleep together. There comes a point when they are no longer children but adults and they need to be treated as such. When that point comes will depend on both the parents and the young person. As it happens, both mine are happily married, have great jobs, we have one grandson and a granddaughter on the way. Perhaps as much as by luck as good judgement it all worked out.
Just try putting some LEGOS on the floor at night outside her room and just wait you will hear a scream when whoever is in the hallway is up. Another option would be some match box or hot wheels too mixed in with the LEGOS. Or you can set up an infa-red camera just to cover the hallway. You might want to send the son to boarding school. A direct confrontation will not end well. You could try talking to the daughter seperately? You can seek a psychologist's help. Technically since they are not blood relatives it is not incest. Weird though, tough situation.
He can also put some IEDs with c4, or maybe few hand grenades with wires.
Talk to your husband and your kids. I think an open honest relationship is the way to go here. If you can get more evidence in the meantime that would help. Hide a nanny cam in their rooms?
Wouldn't a nannycam record child porn if they are indeed having sex and both are under 18? I wouldn't take this option.
So you do not want to be a parent? Perhaps this hands off trusting approach is what got you here in the first place.
Advice...grow a pair, stop worrying about being there friends and be a parent, there is a good chance your kids are banging, and if not, something almost as bad, example..drugs...How could you talk to your husband?....are you kidding me, he is your your husband and the father to one and the step-father to the other...this has to be a joke, nobody is this spineless and weak willed.
Maybe her husband will be in denial and she knows that is the case if she doesn't have any evidence. I wouldn't assume she is spineless. I've had men at work who dissed my intuition as if women's intuition isn't real--I've seen husbands of my friends do the same.
I am pretty sure many of my friends "experimented" with their brothers at one time or another. I believe a few times we all did it together as kids.
"Experimented" with incest???
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