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That advice seems a bit dated but I can understand it. If a woman marries well (and for love, not just money), she will usually have an easier life and be able to stay home with the children when they are young, if she chooses to do so. She will be able to live in a nice neighborhood, drive a nice car, take wonderful vacations, etc.
However, with 50% of marriages ending in divorce these days it would also behoove her to have an education or something to fall back on if the marriage ends. Alimony isn't given as freely as it used to be. I think in Florida you have to be married 18 years before alimony is even a consideration.
Things are not as grim as all that. The high divorce rate is skewed by the serial monogamists who marry and divorce multiple times. Most marriages still last a lifetime.
Things are not as grim as all that. The high divorce rate is skewed by the serial monogamists who marry and divorce multiple times. Most marriages still last a lifetime.
The high divorce is also skewed because people TODAY believe that 50% of marriages end in divorce.
It's a self-fulfilling prophecy.
When people believed marriage was for life ... they stayed married.
I think as with anything, there are pros and cons to this. Everyone, not just girls, should be told the value of education, work ethic, and being self-sufficient when growing up.
I think better, is to find someone compatible to you. And if they are well-off and can easily provide so you don't have to... well, that's just an added bonus.
The high divorce is also skewed because people TODAY believe that 50% of marriages end in divorce.
It's a self-fulfilling prophecy.
When people believed marriage was for life ... they stayed married.
And most men and women are glad about the changes. Marriage is no longer an inescapable prison. We're more civilized now. Both genders can now vote, receive their own pay checks, own property, choose to marry or not, and choose to stay married or not.
I totally get not wanting young women to sacrifice their youth, beauty, and childbearing years for a guy who has shown himself of her through his ability to provide financially. But I firmly believe we should teach our daughters to be self sufficient through education and cultivating their skills and gifts. It is very freeing as a woman to know that you can earn your own paycheck, pay your own bills and make your own rules. It also gives you autonomy and great confidence when choosing an equally yoked and supportive mate.
However, with 50% of marriages ending in divorce these days it would also behoove her to have an education or something to fall back on if the marriage ends. Alimony isn't given as freely as it used to be. I think in Florida you have to be married 18 years before alimony is even a consideration.
I personally think alimony should be eliminated altogether. There is no reason for it.
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