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Old 04-25-2017, 04:34 PM
 
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this isn't like a dog is lost,,,,,

if you really don't know but you make an open concern/accusation,,,,,,then this could upend 3 peoples lives immediately..

16 yr old boys talk a lot of crap..... and if this is lesbians,,,,i highly doubt any of this crap is going on

leave it alone

you cant even raise a concern without it jumping to an accusation or allegation.
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Old 04-26-2017, 01:45 PM
 
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I would leave this one alone.

16 year old kid claiming his lesbian step mom parents with a sexual tone? You do realize an entire class of porn is modeled on that particular subject matter.
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Old 04-29-2017, 09:29 PM
 
Location: Chapel Hill, N.C.
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What does George's race have to do with anything?
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Old 04-29-2017, 09:44 PM
 
Location: Suburb of Chicago
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What does George's race have to do with anything?
The OP said he's African. That's not a race.
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Old 04-29-2017, 09:49 PM
 
Location: Suburb of Chicago
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OP, I don't think I'm the only one who is confused by the phrase "sexual spanking".

I know what is meant by that when sexual activity is involved, but I don't know what is meant by it in this context.

Is this your phrase or the young man's phrase?
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Old 04-29-2017, 11:35 PM
 
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It is sad , what I hear from my son, what goes on with some of his classmates. All I can do is tell my son to stay away from them, and explain what is happening.

children that have to be part of "parent drama" do have it pretty rough. I recall classmate problems from my youth, from fathers with multiple families, drug addicted mothers, or a parent doing hard time in prison. It was sad to see these kids develop into the wrong kind of person, because of emotional abuse suffered. Just witnessing the drama was detrimental to their development. All these problems and confusion just leads to vulnerability.

16 years of age is a long way from discipline. At 16 years of age, if a woman were to spank me in a sexual way, and she looked just a little bit pretty, I would probably have had the wildest boner. Just maybe your sons friend is bragging of his sexual prowness, or just be making it up to appear more like a stud.
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Old 04-30-2017, 08:10 PM
 
Location: Northern Maine
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This is something that is quite disturbing and I don't know whether it makes me feel angry or sad..

My son (19) attends a computer coding class with an age range of kids usually from 12-17+...In there is an African boy, George (16) who my son knows very well as the 'weirdest guy in school'. Apparently he used to say weird things and disturbing comments that he was asked to leave for some suicidal/homicidal comments.

What my son found interesting was that he looked and acted completely different (straight teeth, neat hair, normal eye contact) So much so that my son no longer finds him repulsively weird and actually likes him. He gets along well, is doing better in academics and has high self esteem that prevents his suicidal thoughts.

Where it gets creepy is this....George apparently told my son that he has 'lovely parents' now. His mother fell out with his father after he got suspended and married the music teacher in my sons and George's former school...That wasn't too bad though a bit weird. What troubled me was when my son remarked how he is sometimes disciplined by his new lesbian mother (former teacher) who has a firm parenting method with 'sexual tones'. Apparently, George told my son not to tell me about the but he accidentally did.

I looked their former teacher online to see her again since I met her at a parent teacher meeting a while back before she left in 2013. She look different as well on Facebook. More serious. I tried messaging her about her new relationship but despite being nice, she was very reluctant to offer info. She seemed to completely skip questions I asked about the rumours.

Should I do anything
" has high self esteem that prevents his suicidal thoughts."

Theres no connection, correlates shouldn't be confused with causes.
I'd say you're about to get over involved waaay too deep.
Unless someone asks for help..
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