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Its so strange anyone would do that. Luckily I haven't run into that. Does she have extended family? TV shows often show a whole extended family attend a child's events, like Parenthood and Modern Family. Maybe she thinks that it is supposed to be like that and is trying to replace family with friends?
I would die if I was forced to go to more events...sitting through my own kid's events are bad enough.
I go to most of my nieces' performances and my mom and sister (sometimes BIL, if he's not working) come to my son's. I love being able to do this - one of the big benefits of all living in the same city.
I wouldn't be against going to a friend's kid's thing, but not on a regular basis, but would for something special.
It's hard enough sitting through three hours just to see the 1.5 minutes when it's your own child.
Some parents think their children are everyone's brightest light, instead of just theirs. They're wrong.
I was going to say what you did in the first paragraph.
God help me, the elementary school talent show demonstrated that there was very little talent in our town. All the girls wanted to do music-video type dances. So awful and uncoordinated, but that's what you expect from a bunch of 10-year-olds. By the 20th one, you wanted to hang yourself.
To be honest, yes I would find it annoying and would tell my friends that I don't have an interest in going. If they were to take this offensively then I would question our friendship. I would go to my own kids performances because that's what I'm INTERESTED in. I would expect the same if I invited my friends to see my kid perform..
I have a friend that kept inviting me to her daughters dance recitals. I think she got the hint when I said I couldn't make it every time she asked. I am a parent and never asked my friends to my kids recitals, games, etc. Just family and even then I wouldn't mind if they didn't come.
She is always texting me, other friends, mine and their family members etc...about her kids dance and piano recitals giving us details of when it is and the price and then follows up to ask if we are going. One time I went and watched a 3 hour show when her kid was on stage for 1.5 minutes. I'm not a parents but none of my other friends who have kids do this. Nor did my parents when I was a kid and in shows. I remember my grandparents being there and maybe one of my friends who wanted to go. I just think it really puts people on the spot. She does the same thing with Girl Scout cookies and magazine subscriptions they are selling.
When I was growing up, only immediate family went to high school graduations; now it seems like the parents want everyone they know to attend.
I've had to attend a friend's child's high school graduation and I thought it was slightly ridiculous. Why couldn't just his own parents be there? Why did they need an entourage of 12 of their closest friends to come along with them?
Only my parents attended my high school graduation and I was okay with that.
I find all this snarkiness kind of sad. Why can't anyone just say "Thanks for the invite, but I'm going to have to decline. Sorry." and leave it at that? This person is a friend, right? It's so hard to be polite to your friend?
And I attend family graduations when I'm invited. IMO, it's recognition of an achievement, and I want to honor that.
AND, I find those grade school talent shows to be fun and funny.
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