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You shouldn't be focused on a number or "diets". The goal is to make a new lifestyle and instead of being obsessed with the weight, you should be telling her how much better you feel, how much easier doing things are, etc.
I mean, you do what you want but you are running the risk of it backfiring big time if you present it as punishment.
I would be like "I love you no matter what but I know you can't be happy with things and I can tell you from experience that it won't get easier. We are going to try something new and see what happens."
This stuff costs money so I don't expect you to be able to do it if you cannot
Family sports?
My concern. you talk like a fat lady. You need to talk like a thin person, do as a thin person does, and everyone else will follow by default. Fat people buy those weight watchers calculators. Forget about numbers, just be a normal person.
Place no emphasis on weight or exercise...nor use words fat people do. Don't use the words weight or exercise
No internet or TV until a long hike. Why? Because it is healthy. Don't mention loosing weight. No goals here, just fun
Drive to different trails. No one looses weight constantly talking about food.
Get other interests to replace the food addiction otherwise nothing will change
We had a few foster kids years ago who were morbidly obese.They lost weight, a lot of weight
I never used a scale so no numbers were ever brought up. So who knows but we bought different sizes of clothes a few times
I never praised them for their accomplishments, that would put focus on what I do not want. Being healthy is just the default, not an accomplishment (though nothing wrong with feeling proud of yourself inside)
Ok I've been pushy enough and will leave the thread.
This stuff costs money so I don't expect you to be able to do it if you cannot
Family sports?
My concern. you talk like a fat lady. You need to talk like a thin person, do as a thin person does, and everyone else will follow by default. Place no emphasis on weight or use words fat people do. Just keep constantly busy. No internet until a long hike. No one looses weight constantly talking about food.
They get other interests to replace their addiction otherwise nothing will change.
Ok I've been pushy enough and will leave the thread. I am proud of you for caring about your daughter
Blessings to you all
I don't feel that you've been pushy at all for the record. Appreciate your input.
Where did you see 109? I see ranges of 114-155.
I think you might have some personal problems and should seek help for yourself first. I'm concerned for you that you are writing 109 when it's not even the correct answer. You want her to go from obese to anorexic. You're liable to give this girl psychological problems for life.
I quit.
I second this. When I lost weight it was because I changed my entire lifestyle. It has to be about getting and staying healthy overall.
I really think your family as a whole should seek professional help. This problem seems to be about much more then over eating. Being almost 100 pounds overweight is not needing to just diet. It is most likely a symptom of a larger problem.
Where did you see 109? I see ranges of 114-155.
I think you might have some personal problems and should seek help for yourself first. I'm concerned for you that you are writing 109 when it's not even the correct answer. You want her to go from obese to anorexic. You're liable to give this girl psychological problems for life.
I quit.
was just the first number I saw when I googled average weight of a 14 year old girl, had no plans to really hold her to 109
We just had wild alaskan salmon for dinner. Marinated with lemon juice
Husband made white rice (I know there is healthier rice out there)
drank our vegetables- juiced them. 1 carrots, 1 celery, two kale leaves, purple cabbage (excellent to digest food so easier to loose weight)
I don't like the taste of vegetables so plug my nose and drink them. My parents were very obese so I went the opposite direction and developed osteoporosis from an eating disorder (anorexia) by the time I was in my twenties.
And old man in his late sixties rode up on a bicycle asking me to ride. I could ride two blocks but LOVED IT. So had to get healthy by default in order to ride down those hardcore trails. He was in GREAT shape. Thank God for him. I then ate right, by default so did hubby. Then he started cycling when the bike shop guys would show up and we'd ride. Jealousy probably but it worked Gotta replace it with something they like. If I'd try to eat (akin to someone trying not to eat) I would have great difficulty. But the disorder just disappeared on it's own.
There is a really fat lady here who rides bikes. She is perfectly healthy, all her stats she says. I believe her. She rides daily for 2 hrs or so up many hills. She probably eats a lot but she is still ok
Again Good luck to you. We are going cycling now because I have a major health issue that requires vigorous exercise to control. Odd yes, and I am hoping it works that way or I will need to see a doctor or ER within the next few days for another anemia test because I cannot seem to stop bleeding. Problem is I broke my ankle so I quit riding but gotta get back to it or will end up with a blood transfusion soon. I am loosing so much blood I can barely leave the house longer than an hour. Had to miss work. First Doc said maybe it's menopause. Pap smear was fine. Dunno. But Know from experience that hardcore exercise can stop having a cycle. So I am trying that. Take Good care.
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Gotta replace it with something they like. If I'd try to eat (akin to someone trying not to eat) I would have great difficulty. But the disorder just disappeared on it's own.
