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Old 08-09-2017, 09:19 PM
 
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I am not a parent myself, but my sister is the poster girl for addiction, particularly to bad things. She is 32 and drinks all the time, goes through a pack or more of cigarettes a day, and smokes pot like no one's business. It has gotten her into a lot of trouble, two DUIs, both caught with pot, she coughs and hacks all the time and looks horrible. She's been like this for a very long time, since her late teens even.

I spent the night at her place once and she drank a whole bottle of Kessler and, I should mention she becomes an angry drunk. She started hitting, biting and even spitting on me. Me as well as our parents have tried interventions, getting her help but she keeps at it. They aren't the only things she's been addicted to, but those are the worst. She doesn't know what it means to do things "in moderation", she gets exposed to something and if she likes it she takes it to the next next level.

She amazingly has a job that just barely manages to make ends meet but it's very low wage.
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Old 08-12-2017, 11:36 AM
 
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You should read this book

https://www.amazon.com/Realm-Hungry-...rds=gabor+mate
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Old 08-13-2017, 02:38 PM
 
Location: USA
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There's an active Sober Recovery forum online. You might get better support there.

The Alcoholism and Addictions Help Forums- by SoberRecovery.com

Scroll down thw page and you will see a sub-forum who have loved ones dealing with addiction
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Old 08-13-2017, 02:47 PM
 
Location: Texas
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No. But my dad married into a family of addicts. Lots of financial problems, debt, etc result from all this. Addicts never have enough money. Always broke and wanting more.


I would advise anyone not to marry a person who has children (either teens or adults) who are addicted to drugs or alcohol. You might as well kiss your bank account goodbye.
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Old 08-14-2017, 10:49 AM
 
Location: Hillsborough
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My sister is an addict. She's been in and out of rehab several times, has lost her two kids due to her addiction and homelessness, and hasn't held a job for more than 6 months at a time. She almost died of an overdose about a year and a half ago, and after that she moved out to California for drug rehab. She is still out there in CA, in and out of rehab, currently approaching 4 months sober. I've seen her go 6 months clean a few times, even up to a year before. It's hard to see her cycle in and out of sobriety every few months. About the only time I hear from her is if she is asking me for money, but I can keep up with where she is from her Facebook posts.

My mom and my sister have a very cyclical relationship too, where my mom will either do everything for my sister to help her and find her a job and a place to live and get her a car, etc and then my sister will do well for a little while but then will feel like my mom is too controlling and she wants to do what she wants to do and then my mom says fine, you want to do it alone, then do it alone, and then doesn't help her at all anymore. It's very all or nothing with them, which is not actually helpful in the long-run.
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Old 08-14-2017, 11:32 PM
 
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OP --
Be thankful your sister can live on her own and you're not around her and her behavior. I hope she'll continue to do what she can to be self sufficient. And it won't be until she wants to get better for her to change. Obviously she hasn't reached that point. Addictions are tough on family members and I feel for you and your parents and of course your sister.
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