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My daughter is an 8th grader (almost age 14). I have been contemplating hosting a "Mom's Night" to get to know her BFFs' parents. I wasn't really looking to have a big couples' party, but rather more like a wine and cheese get together. But, one of her friends has a Dad who is a widower and is not remarried. So, I don't want to make this weird for anyone.
In this situation, would you:
a. Invite all the moms plus this single dad
b. Invite all the parents (so all couples except single dad)
I don't want him to feel weird, but I don't want to exclude him just because he's a Dad and not a Mom.
I'm willing to do whatever. I just know that my husband and his buddies aren't generally interested in this type of thing. I don't know if it's different for a single Dad since he's having to play both roles.
Does he possibly have a significant other? Could you word the invitation to let him know it's ok to bring a plus one if there is one?
Does he possibly have a significant other? Could you word the invitation to let him know it's ok to bring a plus one if there is one?
I don't think he does, but I do not know that for sure. I can get my daughter to subtly inquire with her friend. From the little I've seen of him, it appears that his two girls are his priority.
Very nice idea, CMMom. I don't have specific advice for you, but you're absolutely headed in the right direction by making friends of the parents of your daughter's friends.
Best wishes with this effort.
Yes, I want to know them before we get to the driving and possibly unsupervised party stage! To know who I can trust to be on top of things and who might be too lax about that kind of stuff. And to make friends, too, of course.
People might not be available and moms aren't the only ones who care about their kids (I know you weren't saying that) and may not even be the primary caregiver.
I have a female friend with two children. She loves them well enough, but their father takes care of all the regular parenting stuff.
If it's a wine and cheese type neighborhood, that would be fine, I'm sure. I would personally do my best not to make it seem only upper class though, in case some child's parents were more chips and dip type people.
I don't think he does, but I do not know that for sure. I can get my daughter to subtly inquire with her friend. From the little I've seen of him, it appears that his two girls are his priority.
Do you have a good SINGLE friend you could also invite? Wouldn't have to be a mom of one of the kids, just o hey, my friend Patty showed up too!
My daughter is an 8th grader (almost age 14). I have been contemplating hosting a "Mom's Night" to get to know her BFFs' parents. I wasn't really looking to have a big couples' party, but rather more like a wine and cheese get together. But, one of her friends has a Dad who is a widower and is not remarried. So, I don't want to make this weird for anyone.
In this situation, would you:
a. Invite all the moms plus this single dad
b. Invite all the parents (so all couples except single dad)
I don't want him to feel weird, but I don't want to exclude him just because he's a Dad and not a Mom.
I'm willing to do whatever. I just know that my husband and his buddies aren't generally interested in this type of thing. I don't know if it's different for a single Dad since he's having to play both roles.
I'd invite ALL the parents. Why single out the moms? Dads are parents, too. Just because your husband and his buddies aren't interested in this type of thing, doesn't mean that other men feel the same. It's good to get to know your children's friend's parents...never know when a crisis may happen and you need each other. You could make it a wine, craft beer, and cheese get together or grill dinner for everyone.
Do you have a good SINGLE friend you could also invite? Wouldn't have to be a mom of one of the kids, just o hey, my friend Patty showed up too!
Please do NOT do this! Fixing up someone you don't know is a horrible idea. He could be VERY offended and the friendship with your children could be over. He's a widower....let him date on his own schedule.
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