Managing frustration..

[silibran]

She needs to get child support from the deadbeat dad.

Whatever she does, I don't see a future for the two of them.

[Mauijem]

Originally Posted by convextech

As opposed to forcing an unwanted child on an entire family, a child who will be resented and feel the effects for many years, you betcha, it's an easy decision.

My child was placed in a loving family that had (gasp!) two parents that wanted a baby so badly they were willing to wait for one.

(Gasp) well kudos to you!

[sas318]

Originally Posted by Mauijem

The girl now has a baby. He continues to evade. His family has blocked her. He apparently is still "living the dream" in Hawaii. What should she do? What should she say? Why would a guy just take off like that without saying anything?

I'm having a hard time consoling my friend and want to know how to be there for her. This is a terrible thing for him to do ...they both need to start over and give it a shot, right?

Why did his family block her? Was she badgering him all the time?

A guy just ups and leaves because he's in denial. He didn't want the baby in the first place and doesn't want to be tied down with it. He just wants his freedom and have fun. Block her and the situation is out of sight, out of mind, in his eyes.

There's nothing she can do. She tried, but he ran away. He doesn't want to deal with this right now. You can't force him to care and be involved. The only thing she can do is raise the baby alone until hopefully in the future, he'll come to his senses and contact her.