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My dh and I are having a big problem. Since my dh gets home at 8:00 pm some nights, they lay in our bed to spend time together. My DS almost always falls straight to sleep. I move him to his bed. He will then sneak back into our bed, and in the morning we wake up and he is there.
I know that this is our fault for not establishing a bed time routine earlier. He had one when he was little, but as soon as he outgrew the crib and toddler bed with the rail, he just won't stay in there. If we try to put him in his bed at bedtime, he throws a fit.
Any books or advice would be greatly appreciated. It is impacting our sleep so badly, that my dh said we might just start sleeping in ds bed.
Wake up time heavily determines when kids to to sleep.
Wake him up at 6 Am for a couple of days. He ll doze off automatically at 8:30 or 9..We do it and it works.
Get him some things to make his room more interesting - like those lamps that make light shows on the ceiling, or a sound machine
Good stuff above...
I figure if the child's 4, why not just accept it for one more year...probably as soon as he goes to school he'll want to be a big boy now and sleep in his own room.
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You gotta make your bedroom and bed less attractive to him.
Squish him to the side a bit...lay your arm over his head...dig your feet into his back (gently of course)...make it real uncomfortable for him in your bed so's he'll want to go to his own peaceful room.
Maybe a radio going quietly will make him feel more secure in his own room....good luck.
I think he'll grow out of it as soon as he goes to school
I say establish a new routine. A pleasant one that includes laughing, reading a book, maybe a cool themed nightlight from a show he likes or something (my son has Star Wars and my daughter has Dory - they picked them)...sheets that are comfy and have neat characters or a pillow/stuffed toy that is part of the ritual.
And then put your foot down on the getting out of bed.
Agreed. He throws a fit because it works. After all, he's been doing it and getting what he wants - staying in your bed. If it stops working, he'll stop doing it. It's going to suck at first, but if you stand firm and DON'T GIVE IN, he will realize it doesn't work anymore and stop doing it.
I remember dealing with the getting out of bed thing. I just waited outside the door until I heard them getting out of bed, Open the door did not say a word and just put them back in bed and tucked the covers tightly around them then back out and shut the door. Of course back then we were allowed to eventually say if you do not stay in bed you are getting a spanking. Now days unruly kids have PCS on speed dial.
We did have a book that was particularly useful for one of our children It was called "Raising the Difficult Child" Most of the parenting books I found to be worse than useless, but that one was partially helpful.
Sorry I googled it and found four books with simlar names. Not sure which one it was. The one we had was popular in the late 1990s or early 2000s. That is about all I can remember, I will ask my wife if she remembers (if I remember to ask her.
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