Help please

[ali&ajsmom]

Originally Posted by marcella76

Hi everyone. Ok to answer some questions here..the father was caught with child porn and we did call the police I sat through long hours of video with the police as my sister just couldnt do it. At that time my nephew was only 3 years old. She immediatly left the father. He moved in with is mother and that is the only reason why my sister allowed my nephew to go over there. The police confiscated all the evidence and when nothing was done about the father we were told that the evidence had been destroyed "accidentally". I have talked to my son today in great length about his cousin needing help, and then talked to my sister. My son did tell me that my nephew tried to show him his penis and my son told him that is disgusting and it is wrong and left the room. My nephew just keeps changing his story so we all have no idea as to what is going on. He says that he has had encounters with other children even at school, but today he is saying that nothing happened. I really feel that he is trying to cover up what is going on with his father. My sister has now taken him away from the father until they can get into court. As far as the police go my sister called them and they came out last night but my nephew changed the story once again. The officer gave her a number to call and said to get him into counceling and try to get him to tell them what really happened then they can prosecute. I just wonder how many times parents call with concerns about molestation and the police do nothing. I guess that is why these child predators get away with molesting dozens of children before they are caught. It is truly a sad world we live in!

my heart goes out to you my daughter was molested as a toddler(not even 2 at the time) by a previous families friend and could not press charges because she couldn't say what happened. now that she is 7 we still continue to keep out eyes on her to make sure she is alright and doesn't remember what happened to her. People who get off on looking at or being in sexually relationships with children just make me sick and make the Mamma Bear in me come out. I would get your sister to get your nephew in to talk to someone who specializes in child molestation they know how to get to the bottom of the situation.

[alaskarain]

If it looks like a snake, its a snake. I was a victim of sexual abuse for 10 years, everyone turned a blind eye to all the clues I gave, all the bruises and even me flat out telling someone one time. Your nephew is trying to find some way of letting your sister know somethings going on. First of all its out right child neglect in my book that shes allowing her child to be placed in danger and is totally ok with it, and don't seem to affected that her 8 year old son claims this.
As far as your son goes, if it has happened, of coarse hes going to say it didn't happen, its embaressing and he maybe scared. I too have taught my boys about good/bad touching, however that don't mean that faced with situation first hand it can't still happen. The boys maybe experminting with each other as kids often do. But no matter how sorry you may feel for your nephew your first responsibility is your child and if it was would me I would not have him around the nephew at all. I would tell sis that she needs to open her eyes and protect her child. If she still turns a blind eye, report this to child protection and inform them about the porn on the PC, and also contact the Police Department and tell them. There is web sites solely designed by hackers to pose as minors, if you know his screen name you can contact one of these sites and they will make contact with him, all it takes is one IM or one email to get his IP address and the hackers can nail him. Seem extreme? Maybe but listen to your gut and your instints and help this kid someone needs to.