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A "normal healthy sex life" is immoral.
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Because you say so? Or because you have any actual arguments to offer as to why it is so?
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I would disown a kid if they had sex for a non pregnancy reason.
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Which - you know - most people do at some point in their lives - usually quite often and repeatedly. Sorry that people having sex for reasons other than the ones _you_ want them to have sex for bothers you so much. Let alone to the point you would happily see your own children homeless for going against your decrees. But reality is what it is.
The rest of us however realise sex is not just "for" reproduction. It is a social and emotional cohesive and our species is not the only one that uses it for more than mere reproduction.
Further biological evolution has not selected for it to be merely reproductive. If it did - then the ratio of sex:conception would be a hell of a lot higher than it is.
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Children don't think through a lot of subjects. We're supposed to know better.
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I am seeing little to suggest you know much about how children think or what they are capable of understanding. I have seen quite a lot of assertion from you in the thread about what they can and can not comprehend. Assertions that go entirely against my knowledge of the real world. Assertions that you have not yet supported with - well anything but their repetition.
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It's called using the bathroom to get changed. Stop being so lazy. I would talk about it and criticize how lazy you are to not just walk in another room.
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Nothing to do with being lazy and everything to do with there being no reason on offer why they should need to change in privacy. You seem to be missing the point that your own personal hang ups about nudity are not shared with other human beings. They are your own issues - not ours.
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A) You have not offered a single reason why other than it is easier. If that is your explanation for parenting, you're not going to be very successful.
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Could you quote where I said my reasoning is that it is "easier"? I never said that I think - and you appear to now be inventing words on by behalf and shoving them in my mouth.
What I _did_ say is that I think education on many subjects - including sexual education - can be an ongoing iterative process starting very early in a child's life. And that there are genuine benefits for doing that. Nothing at all about it being "easy".
I certainly do not think you are in any position to measure the "success" of my parenting techniques however given A) You do not know the children in question _at all_ and B) they have actually been doing quite well emotionally and intellectually and are pretty much so far top of everything they do.
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B) No, education changes the story to brainwash the general population because if the people were educated, a superintendent wouldn't get paid $400,000 for a job a 10-year old can do. But if you keep the people stupid, the higher-ups can steal from the people easily.
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I am not sure who you are aiming this at as the only one trying to "keep people stupid" are the ones (just you so far?) espousing the position that should keep children ignorant of basic biology. A position you have not backed up in any way but to keep repeating it.
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C) The story you give is garbage though. A kid could easily ask how the egg is produced and you have no answer on the 8-year old level. So you would have to say either you do not know, it is a mystery, or it is too complicated for them to understand. So much for removing their doubt!
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Hold yer horses there - just because you do not have an answer "on the 8 year old level" for such a question does not mean I do not have such an answer. I have in fact many answers to such a question and I have given them to my 7 year old. My 7 year old has many times used a microscope with me to look at her own cells that she has swabbed from the inside of her mouth.
She is more than capable of understanding what cells are - how they divide and reproduce - and that the female egg is just another form of cell that she was born with which then divides and produces a haploid DNA structure for the purposes of fertilisation.
You do not understand this stuff - then that is fine. Nothing wrong with that. But do not presume that this means my 7 year old does not or - worse - can not understand it. Or that I am somehow incapable of explaining it.
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D) A 5-year old is totally incapable of understanding DNA and chromosomes.
There's no way to explain why a sperm is different from an egg without getting into it.
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Again your lack of understanding of it does not mean a 5 year old can not. I have found them more than capable of understanding it.
That said however I have told you _many_ times on this thread that sexual education is an ongoing iterative conversation for me that starts early and continues over time. Meaning that I have not - and never intended to - teach them absolutely everything about it at age 5. What I told you was that from that age they begin to learn the basic processes.
You _appear_ to think that because a child can not understand _everything_ about it then they should be told _nothing_ about it. Which is a position so remarkably devoid of content that I am unsurprised you have merely asserted it rather than argued it so far.
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E) They should not know a fake story when they are 5. It makes the kid wonder what else the parents have lied about.
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I repeat however that children in our education system are given "fake stories" all the time. That is how we teach. I gave you the example of atomic theory in physics. What we teach about the atom and the structure of the atom in early schooling is so very different from the actual structure of the atom that you would laugh if you actually understood it.
But this is how teaching of complex topics often works. We bring a diluted "fake story" to children first and then build on it iteratively. Bringing it closer to the current truth at each iteration.
If you think complex topics of education should be brought to children in full reality from the outset - or not taught at all - then I can do nothing but merely be thankful you are not someone involved in education.