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Instead of getting offensive and turning on the Momma Bear mode, ask her what does she mean by she's weird. She may be struggling with how to tell you something. We're all weird in our own way.
Exactly. For many, weird works out very well later in life.
My age group, Bill Gates would of been considered weird.
My daughter has been going to OT for a couple months for some sensory issues. She is 4. After the session the therapist tells me what they did and how my child reacted. Today she kept mentioning that my child was “weird” and she has said it before as well. This therapist is young and has no kids so I guess she doesn’t realize that it’s a hurtful thing to say to a parent but it’s also pretty unprofessional. I didn’t really know what to say and I think she gathered that from my face. Yeah my daughter has some quirks which is why she is in OT. To be totally unPC her job is to work with kids that might be considered “weird”. The way she talks about my child it seems like it might not be helping her at all but my child loves to go and asks to go many times when it’s not even her appt day. So I’m considering stopping it since it is a big expense and this lady is rude (but my kid adores her). What would you say and do? Yes I am being butthurt and I am also sick and more emotional right now and don’t want to overreact and say something I’d regret. I need some rational responses, lol.
It sounds as if your child is doing well with the therapist, you mention nothing to the contrary. And that is the point of having her there, right?
Have a private talk with the therapist about your hurt feelings before you do do anything precipitous. I find that younger people use many words that I find inappropriate because the use and meaning of those words has changed over the years. Perhaps "weird" is a highly loaded word for you, but not so for her.
Talk about it with the therapist, this is for your child first of all. In other words, as a younger person would say - Don't go getting all "weird" about it. Have a talk with her. Think of your daughter before your butthurt nonsense screws things up.
One just inserts the title for who they are talking to.
I've used the line before in reality. It is rather a silencer of further conversation.
I'm sure! And therein lies the issue. The child likes the therapist. If the parent wants to continue the relationship, this is not the way to pursue it.
I do not understand why so many people want to go directly to the supervisor without even talking to the OT herself. It sounds like, other than this, she's a good OT. The child likes her.
For the nth time, I do not think the OT should have said the child was "weird". However, I've heard worse. There was a new young doctor at my office who used the word "retarded" in the colloquial manner when she first started working there. I have a feeling she was "counseled" to stop it.
Who better to "counsel" the OT than her supervisor.
Who better to "counsel" the OT than her supervisor.
I disagree that contacting the supervisor should be the first step. Why not talk to the OT first and leave the supervisor out of it? (I don't know who talked to that doctor; it might well have been a patient. Heck, she might have overheard me saying that I thought the word was offensive.)
Having worked in health care, here's one likely scenario, though not the only one:
Sup: "Suzi" I got a complaint about you yesterday.
OT: Oh?
Sup: Yes, a mom says you referred to her daughter as "weird". (Pregnant pause while sup waits for OT to respond)
OT: Well, I don't remember my exact words, yeah, maybe I did say that because. . .
Sup: I have to write you up for this.
Later, supervisor brings form for OT to sign. When it comes time for performance review, OT gets bad review and no raise, even though she's never said that again, she's one of the best OTs in the office, etc. OT quits job. Replacement isn't nearly as good a therapist.
I disagree that contacting the supervisor should be the first step. Why not talk to the OT first and leave the supervisor out of it? (I don't know who talked to that doctor; it might well have been a patient. Heck, she might have overheard me saying that I thought the word was offensive.)
Having worked in health care, here's one likely scenario, though not the only one:
Sup: "Suzi" I got a complaint about you yesterday.
OT: Oh?
Sup: Yes, a mom says you referred to her daughter as "weird". (Pregnant pause while sup waits for OT to respond)
OT: Well, I don't remember my exact words, yeah, maybe I did say that because. . .
Sup: I have to write you up for this.
Later, supervisor brings form for OT to sign. When it comes time for performance review, OT gets bad review and no raise, even though she's never said that again, she's one of the best OTs in the office, etc. OT quits job. Replacement isn't nearly as good a therapist.
That's one possibility. It's also possible the supervisor doesn't write her up, she doesn't get a bad review, and she doesn't quit.
Or, she does quit and her replacement is just as good, and as a bonus, doesn't call kids weird.
Why bypass the worker herself, do an end run to her supervisor? Why not give her a chance to change her behavior without getting involved in the office discipline process? Just one chance!
I am guessing the person who prescribed the ADD medication intentionally knew the medication would interfere with puberty to force the first poster to have to pay for another appointment.
(I don't actually think puberty has anything to do with anything, but if it does, you can be sure that doctor made that "mistake" intentionally.)
What the heck?
ADHD medications need to be calibrated for individual children. Puberty does affect the dosage, so it is legitimate that a change in meds made be needed when a child hits puberty. The meds do not *interfere* with puberty, but puberty does change the medication needs.
As for appointments, my granddaughter who takes adhd meds has to be seen at various times when we renew her prescription because they are a controlled substance and the doctor has to account for their usage.
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