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Old 03-15-2018, 11:16 PM
 
Location: California
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I had a divorce a year ago. I have 3 kids in my care. One is 6 years old, second is 5, and the last is still 2. To be honest, it’s tiring at times but I’m working hard for them. I don’t want them to live with nothing in their tummies and pockets. I guess with my work, I can sustain their needs and wants. I want what’s best for my kids.

Just recently, my two kids are looking for a father figure. I was astounded yet felt irresponsible by not giving them the chance to live without a father caring and loving them. But am I not enough? I’m doing my best for them and it should be enough. But still, that thought won’t come out from my head.

So I tried dating. I called some of my friends on whom to date. They gave me some site names but I think I’d be so desperate if I do so. So I ended up going to online dating. There I saw an ad for international dating social event. So I posted some of my pictures, trying it not be showy and agreed to attend the event.

Do you think I’ve made the right decision? Is this move a smart one? Please tell me so. I appreciate your responses!
I'd pick someone from your children's school who already has children. Do they have an classmates with single fathers? They you have much in common from the getgo and if the kids get along, wow that would be wonderful. Alot of people don't date others with as many kids as you have, so if you choose someone with at least another child of that age, even a child the kids already know , might be the best.

Another place could be a bible believing church.

So sorry to hear about your divorce. Children need a mother and father so you will never fulfill both roles for them. Hang in there
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Old 03-16-2018, 05:18 AM
 
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I support looking for male role models outside of dating.

Single father with kids is a good start. Could plan some outings together, hikes, picnics, ...

Uncle? Cousin? Brother? Friend?

Dating is an iffy proposition. You usually have to kiss a lot of frogs to find a prince. The last thing you want to do is have your kids get attached to a man who doesn't end up staying.
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Old 03-16-2018, 05:20 AM
 
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Pretty sure this is elaborate spam for that foreign dating "tour."

Now that I reread the OP's one and only post, I suspect you are correct.
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Old 03-16-2018, 05:57 AM
 
Location: Connecticut
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On the off chance that this is a real post, this is exactly what the Big Brothers / Big Sisters of America organization is for.

http://www.bbbs.org/
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Old 03-16-2018, 08:33 AM
 
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One and done.

Why do these all have the same "tone"?
Over and over again. Single post with a controversial topic.
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