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My daughter's dr is in his 60's with 2 kids under 2. I was SHOCKED when i read an article about him that mentioned this. I knew he had older children in their 30's but i had no idea he had babies. His wife is another dr he works with who is 39/40. It came up at one of her more recent appointments and he joked saying oh i just love kids so much and I always wanted to be an old man chasing after them.
Goes back to my theory that rich people having kids older is different than the average joe having them because the more money you have the more help you can hire. But even with all that money having 2 kids under 2 or 3 or 4 is not easy for anyone at any age.
The kids will get older, though, and it will get easier.
I wouldn't say things get "easier". Just a new set of challenges. Case in point, I don't have any in diapers and taking apart lamps anymore, but I do have a soon to be 12 year old transitioning to teen years. I wouldn't call any stage of parenting truly easy, only that you get more adept at it as you go along.
I was just talking to a friend about this. Parenting is physically easier when the kids are over 3 or 4. But mentally? Believe the adage, “little children, little problems.” Their teen years are emotionally difficult... and I have really good kids who don’t get into trouble. But going along with their plans and letting them fly while counting on their undeveloped prefrontal cortexes to keep them safe... oh man. Some days I’d really like to trade that in for the physically demanding days of toddlerhood. And I know I’ve got it easy. They dont drink or smoke or do anything particularly worrisome. Some of my friends have teens with issues. It’s scary.
I wouldn't say things get "easier". Just a new set of challenges. Case in point, I don't have any in diapers and taking apart lamps anymore, but I do have a soon to be 12 year old transitioning to teen years. I wouldn't call any stage of parenting truly easy, only that you get more adept at it as you go along.
It's logistically easier, not emotionally. But for the past couple of years, I've been able to leave my almost 14 year old son home, come and go as I need. Even when I'm home, when we aren't directly interacting, I'm not watching and taking care of him. He can fend for himself when needed and do plenty around the house as well, to help keep things running smoothly.
It's true that I worry that the things that happen and the decisions I make are often more directly connected with things that could truly impact his future, like deciding which high school he'll attend and what classes he'll take, which will directly affect where he goes to college. So I worry a lot more. But it's not the same amount of work as chasing after a toddler or preschooler and having to keep them occupied for just about every waking hour.
lol, so I guess a women can have a kid whenever she wants but for this gal, the thought of having to deal with a 15 year old teenager at the time I want to be retiring is enough to make me slit my throat.
I have a good friend of mine who is dealing with this and it ain't pretty. he waited until 52 to have his first and now he's realizing he'll be working the rest of his life.
My youngest just graduated from college and I'm dancing on the ceiling with happiness.
Well it just seems like anytime someone has anything negative to say about it you come back with all these reasons on why it's great.
So?
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