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Well it just seems like anytime someone has anything negative to say about it you come back with all these reasons on why it's great.
And why are you so anti? No one is forcing you to have a child at 50, but other people are allowed to make their own choice and they are even allowed to not be miserable just because they make a different choice than the one you think is ok.
a woman having a kid at 50 is ridiculous. If you cant make it happen before that you shouldnt be having one. Kind of like your days of wearing clothing meant for a 21 year old are over as well.
Tammy Duckworth used IVF to conceive her first child when she was 47, after experiencing fertility issues likely related to the injuries she received while fighting in Iraq. She used it again, with remaining embryos for this child. I personally find her age somewhat irrelevant, although it does of course contribute to all that she's been able to accomplish in her life up until now - it would be tough to fit all that in without having lived 50 years so far.
As someone who had my only child at 42, I think like pretty much everything in life, there are pros and cons about having children later in life. I certainly had less energy at 42 (and now in my 50s with a young teen) than I did in my 20s and 30s. On the other hand, I'm establishing in my career and able to earn enough to support myself and my son as a single mom while working a very flexible schedule, something I could not have done a decade or two ago.
But I think women having children in their late 40s and into their 50s will remain a statistical blip and not become commonplace. It almost always requires expensive fertility treatment (sometimes but often not paid for via insurance) and many people who know they want kids have them earlier. However, for those who want and are in a position to have children later in life, I'm glad that it's an option.
I imagine it's more likely Tammy Duckworth had to use IVF to conceive at 47 because of her advanced age, than anything that happened to her in Iraq.
And why are you so anti? No one is forcing you to have a child at 50, but other people are allowed to make their own choice and they are even allowed to not be miserable just because they make a different choice than the one you think is ok.
I agree. Nobody else has to feel miserable about their life choices, just because someone else thinks they should. We all get to make our own choices in life, and not everyone is going to agree with those choices.
a woman having a kid at 50 is ridiculous. If you cant make it happen before that you shouldnt be having one. Kind of like your days of wearing clothing meant for a 21 year old are over as well.
What's interesting to me is you created this account and have only posted on this one thread, making all these comments (with the exception of a couple of posts elsewhere). Just something I noticed. What's up with that?
If you don't want to have kids after age 50, then don't do it. Nobody is forcing you to. KWIM?
a woman having a kid at 50 is ridiculous. If you cant make it happen before that you shouldnt be having one. Kind of like your days of wearing clothing meant for a 21 year old are over as well.
Well, it's sure a good thing for all the rest of us that you get to make the rules, isn't it?
I agree. Nobody else has to feel miserable about their life choices, just because someone else thinks they should. We all get to make our own choices in life, and not everyone is going to agree with those choices.
As long as I don't have to PAY for your choices.
I'm cool with paying to help with social problems about which no one had any choice. But when it comes to something that is your CHOICE, fork over your own dough. (In an earlier post I brought up facts about the much higher possibility of a child from older parents being born with autism.)
Sadly, lots of people's choices, including the choice to have a child an an older age, often cost the rest of us a lot of money.
I just watched the HBO documentary "A Dangerous Son", and was struck by how all of the mothers demanded all kinds of public help, ranging from police to social workers to psychiatrists to prescription drugs to special schools. And one of them was pregnant again.
a woman having a kid at 50 is ridiculous. If you cant make it happen before that you shouldnt be having one. Kind of like your days of wearing clothing meant for a 21 year old are over as well.
I don't know why you think it's ridiculous, and your analogy about the clothes blows.
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Originally Posted by 601halfdozen0theother
As long as I don't have to PAY for your choices.
I'm cool with paying to help with social problems about which no one had any choice. But when it comes to something that is your CHOICE, fork over your own dough. (In an earlier post I brought up facts about the much higher possibility of a child from older parents being born with autism.)
Sadly, lots of people's choices, including the choice to have a child an an older age, often cost the rest of us a lot of money.
I just watched the HBO documentary "A Dangerous Son", and was struck by how all of the mothers demanded all kinds of public help, ranging from police to social workers to psychiatrists to prescription drugs to special schools. And one of them was pregnant again.
It has been brought up earlier in the thread that younger moms tend to have higher rates of some birth defects. No one knows just what causes autism. Most children of older parents do not have autism. There is nothing in "A Dangerous Son" about older parental age that I could find.
In general, older parents are more financially stable, have better health insurance, and use fewer public services.
Sadly, lots of people's choices, including the choice to have a child an an older age, often cost the rest of us a lot of money.
I just watched the HBO documentary "A Dangerous Son", and was struck by how all of the mothers demanded all kinds of public help, ranging from police to social workers to psychiatrists to prescription drugs to special schools. And one of them was pregnant again.
You're very wrong. Younger parents are statistically far, far more likely to use social services (welfare, etc) than older mothers or older parents. Older moms usually have college degrees, careers and money to raise their child. It's usually young or teen moms who are more likely to use social services.
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